Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To eat nuts around my baby

38 replies

Charming1234 · 18/07/2017 17:19

Current advice whilst pregnant is to eat nuts so I was told. Now my 11 week old DD is here I've just been sat happily eating a bowl of pistachios only to be told by MIL that I'm endangering my baby's life and I should be ashamed, I certainly shouldn't eat them anywhere near her and i shouldn't pick her up etc and breathe nut breath on her Hmm. AIBU?!

OP posts:
Saiman · 18/07/2017 17:20

Yanbu. Unless yiu think shevhas a pistachio allergy.

Saiman · 18/07/2017 17:20

Sorry. That post was full of typos Blush

Justhadmyhaircut · 18/07/2017 17:22

As long as you don't shove one up each nostril (dd's) I am sure it's fine.

Youareabadparent · 18/07/2017 17:23

The idea is that is she develops an allergy you could almost certainly kill her. Just play it safe and take the advice.

eurochick · 18/07/2017 17:23

Bonkers. Carry on munching.

Ecureuil · 18/07/2017 17:25

The idea is that is she develops an allergy you could almost certainly kill her. Just play it safe and take the advice

What advice? MIL's advice? Even though the NHS says it's not a problem?

Soubriquet · 18/07/2017 17:26

The idea is that is she develops an allergy you could almost certainly kill her. Just play it safe and take the advice

You may as well never eat around your baby in case they develop an allergy Hmm

NicolasFlamel · 18/07/2017 17:27

It's not even legitimate advice. Please do find a link explaining that from a reputable source. Utter nonsense. It's actually worrying that people spread stuff like this.

toosexyforyahshirt · 18/07/2017 17:27

Some people talk an awful lot of shit.

thatorchidmoment · 18/07/2017 17:28

How ridiculous. Eat nuts and prosper, I say! (Unless your child develops an allergy to them, then I'd be wary of having them in the house).
Iirc, it appears that children who are exposed to nuts relatively early are less likely to develop allergies to them anyway.

Original poster
Charming1234 · 18/07/2017 17:29

Thanks so far. I must say I'm a bit nieve about allergies as I've never ever known anyone thats had an allergy so I've never been concerned (except 1 friend who is a coeliac come to think of it) but no one on either sides of our families have allergies so it never even crossed my mind.

OP posts:
CruCru · 18/07/2017 17:32

Feel free to eat nuts.

However, before you give your child a nut for the first time, rug one along their forearm. If they are allergic, it may come up in a red welt.

Babypythagorus · 18/07/2017 17:32

I remember reading about some country (maybe Pakistan?) where babies are weaned on a peanut paste, and they have far fewer nut allergies than us. Munch on and enjoy them!

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 18/07/2017 17:37

Your MIL could have worded it better in any case. "You should be ashamed of yourself"? She sounds delightful. Hmm

Next time she attacks you with some of her "advice" perhaps you could suggest looking it up online? and proving her wrong.

Tapandgo · 18/07/2017 17:40

I've 2 children born 1 year apart. One has a nut allergy, one does not. My nut eating habits were the same for both.

Wharm14 · 18/07/2017 17:40

As a mother with a nut allergy I got myself tested again before we weaned DS to check what I was still allergic too. We've been advised to slowly introduce nuts to DS and just be cautious and use our judgement. There's no evidence to suggest he'll be allergic just because I am. I think if you don't have a history of nut allergy in the family then you are ok to eat nuts around your own baby, just be careful around other peoples babies who you don't know. Allergy UK have lots of good advice on their website if you want to educate your MIL! Wink

tissuesosoft · 18/07/2017 17:40

Tell her technically pistachios are seeds!

SandyDenny · 18/07/2017 17:42

She's being daft, ignore her

Bigbiscuits · 18/07/2017 17:44

Babypyth - it was Israel here children are weaned on Bamba which is a peantut flavoured whatit.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/mobile.nytimes.com/2015/10/25/magazine/letter-of-recommendation-bamba.amp.html

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 18/07/2017 17:46

It was old advice. Be kind to your MAIL Smile

Silversun83 · 18/07/2017 17:49

Maybe she's getting confused because the guidelines say not to give whole nuts to under ones (because of the choking risk)? As others have said, research shows that giving smooth nut butters (eg peanut butter) to babies early on in their weaning journey actually helps to prevent allergies. And it's really good for them too. We did BLW with DD and after fruit and veg, peanut butter on toast was one of the first things we gave her! She loves it!

Ecureuil · 18/07/2017 17:50

She wasn't particularly kind to her DIL, telling her she should be ashamed of herself!
I'd have more sympathy for the MIL if she'd gently let her DIL know her point of view.

PumpkinSpiceEverything · 18/07/2017 17:51

Utterly bonkers sounds like she just has some outdated information. There was once the advice not to eat peanuts whilst pregnant as it was thought to lead to peanut allergies, but this had long been debunked. Munch away.

LaurieMarlow · 18/07/2017 17:51

Tell her she's talking shit Wink

coconuttella · 18/07/2017 17:54

She wasn't particularly kind to her DIL, telling her she should be ashamed of herself!

Indeed! MIL dynamics can be difficult at the best of times without telling someone they should be ashamed! I'm surprised you reacted to her as calmly as you did, irrespective of whether the advice was sound!