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Who is being unreasonable?

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PurpleDragon76 · 18/07/2017 16:52

Which neighbour is being unreasonable? Neighbour A - who keeps hanging the wet plastic cover from a large garden pool over a fence adjoining neighbour B? Neighbour B - keeps pushing it back over the fence?

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PurpleDragon76 · 18/07/2017 17:45

I care. I don't want a huge grey plastic tarpaulin hanging in my garden. 6 foot down and about 3 foot wide. Its not small!

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Topseyt · 18/07/2017 17:46

Bander, I would mind very much if any neighbour regularly hung stuff over into my garden.

Banderwassnatched · 18/07/2017 17:49

It's not massive, either. I wouldn't push it back over, it'll get muddy. If it really bithered me I'd discuss it with them. But I'm not that bothered about having an unimpeded view of my fence, so I wouldn't do anything.

Topseyt · 18/07/2017 17:49

Ask her why she thinks you have been shoving it back over.

Tell her you will remove it completely if it appears again and she will have to come round and ask for it back.

mrsm43s · 18/07/2017 17:52

Technically, probably A is being U, unless it's wholly her fence.

But, B is being super petty, and likely to sour neighbourly relations by making a bit deal out of such a minor issue.

FlandersRocks · 18/07/2017 17:52

Neighbour B which I see is you op.

'I don't want it there' just sounds petty and picky. I mean...why? Is it spoiling your view of your fence? Hmm

Just hope you never need a favour from the neighbours!

Justhadmyhaircut · 18/07/2017 17:56

£1 hanger for pants etc and hang your bloomers /thongs over the fence. .

Banderwassnatched · 18/07/2017 17:57

(Btw if it is 3' by 6', and it is hung over a fence, that is a 3' x 3' square in your garden. It's not a lot, really, is it? Your fence woukd have to be quite small for that to even reach the floor.)

FrogFairy · 18/07/2017 17:58

A is BU to encroach on B's garden.

AnnetteCurtains · 18/07/2017 17:59

I'd keep flicking it back too ! Bloody cheek

Scoobydoobydont · 18/07/2017 18:00

A should probably have got the message after it had been pushed back.

B should be very happy they don't have anything better to worry about that a 3 foot width of plastic sheet hanging over a fence.

Both should learn to communicate, but I really, really couldn't get worked up about this.

BroomHandledMouser · 18/07/2017 18:05

Agree with scooby - just go and speak to them ffs.

A is rude for doing so but you're acting like a child. Perhaps if you popped over and just asked them to stop they would Hmm

eyebrowsonfleek · 18/07/2017 18:21

We need a diagram.

Banderwassnatched · 18/07/2017 18:24

A diagram? Imagine a grey square on yoir fence, 3' by 3'. I'm looking at my fence and i just can't see why it would matter, to have something smaller than an Athena poster on my fence.

AcrossthePond55 · 18/07/2017 18:25

YANBU. But perhaps a wee bit U if you haven't actually spoken to them about stopping doing it.

Although pushing it back over would certainly send the same message as speaking to them if they had any sense, wouldn't' it?

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PurpleDragon76 · 18/07/2017 18:32

The sheet is huge, the length in my garden is 6 x 3 feet, not 3 x 3.

We share a fence but are on a different street so to go round is quite a walk with 2 grumpy kids. If it keeps happening I will go round and ask them to stop. My garden is small, this sheet is very very obvious. I will concede its a bit petty but I think its thoughtless of them.

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pinkyredrose · 18/07/2017 18:35

chuck it over with s note attached?

FlandersRocks · 19/07/2017 08:53

B should be very happy they don't have anything better to worry about that a 3 foot width of plastic sheet hanging over a fence

This.

RhiWrites · 19/07/2017 09:47

All those saying B is unreasonable, can I hang a giant groundsheet on your wall? It'll be hideous and make your garden look like a worksite but it's petty to complain, right?

OP, pop it back with a note, saying " please don't hang this over the wall, it spoils the look of my garden."

TheMaddHugger · 19/07/2017 09:51

Put a few potted plants along the fence and add bamboo stakes to the pots.

Hopefully it will discourage the neighbour... or it will make it harder for them to throw it onto the fence

EdmundCleverClogs · 19/07/2017 09:52

A, for sure. It may seem petty, but it's disrespectful and certainly annoying. I may be a tad biased though looks out to see our neighbour's once again using our shared fence to hang all their washing, contemplating putting itching powder in their pants and towels.

Savelli · 19/07/2017 09:54

They are being unreasonable but I wouldn't push it back id say to them you don't want them drying their wet cover in your garden Angry

ChasedByBees · 19/07/2017 09:57

It doesn't matter who owns the fence - the space inside B's garden is her garden. You can cut off plants that overhang so a plastic sheet is certainly out of order.

I would mind very much about this.

ChasedByBees · 19/07/2017 10:03

And for those saying it doesn't matter, look at this garden.

www.gardenbuilders.co.uk/p/5221/private-small-garden-design-ideas

Now imagine it with a six foot plastic sheet hanging over it from next door.

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