To have teenage heartbreak at 45

[impatientarchitect]

I think I'm in love with my friend's husband - or maybe not. I don't know.

We saw them on a fairly regular basis until recently when they moved a couple of hours away.

I still see her on a regular basis but I've realised it was him I actually enjoyed spending time with.

I'm not sure whether I just miss him as a friend or not - difficult to tell.

However I'm finding myself pining in a pathetic teenage way at various hours of the day.

I don't particularly want to have an affair or have any intention of doing anything about it.

Do you think if I let myself pine for a bit they'll go away?

Are you married yourself op? This kind of thing happens in life but what matter is how to handle it. An affair is never the answer and someone will end up heartbroken over it. However you can't help how you feel (life sucks that way). I'm sorry to hear that the one you want isn't available but hang on in there, the feelings will pass and if you're single, the right one will come along

No I'm perfectly happily married.

I don't want to have an affair, have no contact with him or any reason to.

I feel ridiculous.

But I felt the need to share with someone!