AIBU?
... to think this is just an excuse?
aliphil · 17/07/2017 21:02
DD's fifth birthday is coming up and I've been chasing invitation replies. One mum has eventually answered to say sorry, her DS can't come, because she's working and so her DP won't have any transport. They live half a mile away at most. DD walks that distance to school every day so it doesn't seem far enough to need a car to me. Not that I'll say anything, of course, I'm just a bit 
that she couldn't come up with a better excuse!
GreenRut · 17/07/2017 21:07
I was thinking the same as pp, maybe the DP has problems with that walk. Maybe they other dc who, for whatever reason, have problems with the walk? Or maybe there's another valid reason which she didn't want to go into. I've done that recently (was very boring, but I wouldn't have made the 30 min bus ride there did back and been able to collect my other dc from a club on time, but I didn't bore the other parent with the details!)
rinabean · 17/07/2017 21:14
This is like when people think underpants need their own special overpants to hide them and things like that. Pantyliners for your pantyliners for your knickers
She gave an excuse to not hurt your feelings. But your feelings are hurt because it should have been an extra good excuse.
She could have just said "I reckon it'll be shit, also I hate you", I mean, that's not what you want is it?
She's not coming. Don't stress about the details like this. She hasn't done anything wrong. You could be relaxing, it's a lovely evening. Maybe she's telling the truth, maybe it's a lie. It doesn't matter. You're being totally unreasonable. It's not a slight on you or your daughter
bangingmyheadoffabrickwall · 17/07/2017 21:23
It could be that her DP/DH can't be arsed and she's too embarrassed to say! I say this from experience. It is ME who does the party runs. DH always makes some excuse. It works because he has NEVER, ONCE attended a party that our child has been invited to. I do it simply because I cannot be arsed with the agro plus he'll end up embarrassing me or our DS!
It could also be that the parents don't want their son going to a girl's party (heard that one before) and know they'll be flamed for it if found out!
Does she know that you know where she lives? That aspect of her 'lie' may not have been apparent to her.
Whatever, if the parents do not have a genuine excuse for their son not attending, there is nothing you can do about it. Just shrug it off and reconsider inviting for the next party.
DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 17/07/2017 21:41
This is like when people think underpants need their own special overpants to hide them and things like that. Pantyliners for your pantyliners for your knickers
What on earth are you talking about?
OP could be all sorts of reasons,don't stress,just accept they're not coming.
jemsywemsy · 17/07/2017 22:24
Maybe she just has a policy of only letting her DS go to parties of friends he plays a lot with? I've had responses to DCs' invitations that have simply say "X can't make it, sorry" - I don't feel like I'm owed an explanation and it might be that their kid just doesn't want to come or they can't be arsed taking them, or they might have plans...not really any of my business!
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