Regarding house sale

[SashaVelour]

Ex and I split in August last year after buying our house in April. We have sold and are due to get 26.5k after all costs. He's saying he should get 20k and I get 6.5 because he put more in and put more towards the mortgage. I put less in because I didn't have inherit to put in like him and work pt due to looking after our son. He also says he should be able to pay off his credit card bill because it was all used for the house (he's claiming 5k but I know at least 2 was on there before we got together).
The money is supposed to go into our joint account but wibu to ask for 8k to go into my own account? The solicitor has given me until tomorrow morning to decide. He's basically said he will no longer have our son whilst I work if I try and get any more which would mean I can't work as I do 12 hour shifts and no childcare providers do this. I feel like I have to choose between financial security and my son's relationship with his dad. Please give me some advice!
Thanks in advance.

Don't bow into his threats now or you'll be dancing to his tune forever. Get the 50% you're entitled to, go through CMS for maintenance, get a nanny/au pair.

Another thing to consider is if I take 6.5 I can save that towards a house. If I take more I'll likely spends it all on childcare.

Being fair - he should take his 7.5k inheritance. You should take whatever deposit you put in.

The remainder should be split 50:50.

Money which you spent on mortgage repayments is lost and would have been needed to keep a roof over your head whether renting or buying, so I'd ignore that element.

Child maintenance contributions are a separate issue and he is liable for those regardless. CMS will calculate how much. Don't rely on him for childcare - you'll have to buy that in and cope financially until you start your 9-5.

Actually 50/50 is not the law anymore.
The law changed recently to protect people going into properties and putting down differing amounts.
He has every right to have his deposit/inheritance back first. The fact that he cheated is totally irrelevant.
He is entitled to his 7.5 k inheritance back first and then the rest is split 50/50. It would be unlikely that they would hold you responsible for any part of the credit card debit unless he had in writing from you that they were things that you had asked him to purchase and you expected to pay him back. So I would ignore the request for extra for the credit card debt.
Instruct the solicitor to pay 9.5 into your account.
As for refusing to have your son yes you may not be able to work, you're going to have to look at solving that separately as if you consider that he is going to keep using the threat against you and do you really want someone who is using your child like that involved anyway?
Also you need to get the CSA involved ASAP as that can have a lot of lag time and get a formal payment system set up as he clearly isn't going to be able to be trusted not to use money as a weapon.

You can't rely on him for childcare as he will hold it over you if he can.Take 50% of what left after inheritance deducted.He is responsible for his own credit card debt.
How old is your child?

You can't trust him.
He's already threatening not to share childcare and he wants you to pay for his previous credit card debt.

Take the 50% and pay for a nanny for your 12-hr weekend shift.
If it's only for a year, that should cover it.

The childcare is essential this year
Next year, with that management next year, you'll be able to save for a house deposit if you wish, but it's not the immediate priority

with that management job

Surely you hold out for the entire 13.5k that you are entitled to and then use the extra 5.5k you've just gained about the 8k you originally thought you might accept to pay for child care if you need to.

If he really wants to see his son he'll have him anyway - he's trying to hold you over a barrel.

Woah his contribution was his inherited £7.5k, and he wants £20k back?

Tell him to try another joke. I 100% stand by my suggestion of 50/50 after inheritance deducted.

So you get £9.5k and he gets £17k, anyone who isn't happy with that return on their investment is an idiot.

As for the crecit card, go through it, decide what household items you are keeping / he's taking and then give a an amount to cover only those you are keeping. Anything child related you both split between you.

Asfor childcare, that is a totally separate issue. You can't trust him, he'll likely drop you in s mess at a moments notice if you do take less money so maybe try and advertise for occasional childcare support

I think morally right is give him his inheritance then the rest is 50/50.

Legally right is 50/50.

If it were me I would give him the inheritance back.

I think you should both get your deposits back (in their differing amounts) and anything left over in excess split 50/50.