Have NC for this as quite identifying.
My friend we'll call her Jane has a 16 year old DD who lives with dad and she doesn't see her. There have been many reasons given for this but it's become quite obvious recently that it's simply because she lives with dad and is essentially punishing her DD for it. However her exH claims maintenance through CMS (and rightly so) but Jane seems to think that this money should go directly to her DD and started to get other people (relatives) to contact her DD when she pays the monthly sum. Along the lines of 'Mum has paid the money into their account now make sure you get it because it's your money'
I stopped discussing the situation with her DD months ago because it's starting to frustrate me but she volunteers this info every time she does it. It's like she thinks she deserves some kind of praise for paying towards her daughters upbringing.
AIBU to say to tell her next time she says it that I have no interest in her vendetta with her ex and his wife and that in my eyes CM is for the child's upbringing costs and not spending money?
She'll probably fall out with me but tbh it would be a relief!