AIBU? Lack of sleep may be making me unreasonable!!

[Nurse15]

We have an 11 wk old baby who has reflux - as a result she cries 80% of the time and sleeps terribly. My DH last night went to bed with us at 10pm, took me until 10.45 to get the baby asleep. He sleeps in the spare room as he gets up at 5 for work and can't cope with the sleep deprivation of having a newborn! At 11.30 he woke me coming upstairs - he must have been in the living room as he couldn't sleep. The baby then woke for a feed at 1.15. I have to hold her for 30mins after a feed or she vomits. As a result the whole process is never faster drab an hour. DH gets up again at 5 and comes into our room to use the bathroom and gets dressed. This usually wakes the baby and always me. AIBU to ask him to just stay in bed if he can't sleep at night? The sleep deprivation is slowly making me want to get a bit stabby with him.

Yanbu, he needs to sort himself out the night before and not disturb you. There is zero reason for him to come in to you in the morning

And I would persist with him taking the baby at the weekend. S/he maybe isn't settling as s/he's more used to you.

It might make your husband more sympathetic to your situation. Even better if you could wait in the spare room until baby has FINALLY drifted off to sleep and DH has breathed a huge sigh of relief and is drifting off himself.... Then you could pop in with a loud and disruptive "sorry, just need to pee"

AtHome I am not embittered or divorced, I did however hate my Dh with the passion of a thousand fiery suns for a while simply because he did not understand how debilitating doing 100% of all nights were. As well as the complete life upheaval and all the changes, it's a head fuck, and OPS baby is still tiny.

He was getting a full night sleep (in the room next door, also because he works long hours which involve driving and I didn't want him coming off the road with tiredness) I remember him getting up once and yawning and and moaning about how tired he was, he'd had a full 9 hours and I was incredulous as I'd been up all night and was beyond exhausted.

Sorry, I've read the OP again and see the baby is a she, I wasn't sure when I was typing my message!

Don't worry blue rose! You are forgiven!! Laughing at your suggestion - I could develop a tiny bladder for one night I think! I think I'll make him take her again Friday night, persistence is key! Tried literally every medicine they sell for colic / wind etc with no success. Should have spent the money on some gin instead

Haha gin is a great idea!! At least you'll be awake but relatively cheerful!

And do persist with DH minding her - she doesn't necessarily settle for you instantly but you don't just shrug and pass her along to him, you keep going. He can give it a go too!!
Enjoy a relaxing evening on Fri!!