This has been going round and round in my head, can't sleep, so thought I'd post here. Long story short.
Mil has a bf of about 17 years. This bloke has lived in her house (mortgage paid off my mil and dh's father years ago) rent free, contributes nothing to the bills, always dicking about in between jobs, cheated on her once many years ago. When my dh lived there years ago when he was a teenager, he and bf never got on, to the point where the bf threatened dh with a knife. This concluded with dh asking mil to choose between him and the bf. She chose the bf.
Naturally, this meant dh and mil have had an extremely fractured relationship. In recent years, they have begun to rebuild it, even with the bf. With dh and I getting married and then having our DD, who is 4 months.
Then last week mil asked to come round unexpectedly. When she arrived she sat down and burst into tears, and said the bf has been cheating on her, he's admitted it, with some woman he worked with. He's now conviently gone out of the country on work, whilst he 'decides what he wants'
I hit the roof, and told mil she needs to kick him out, change the locks etc. She then went on basically trying to excuse his behaviour, saying it happens in realtionships sometimes, they could work it out blah blah.
In short, I'm pretty sure she's going to have him back.
I'm extremely concerned because I think some of his behaviour is very strange and possibly abusive. Example - he makes her share a Facebook profile with him under a weird name - I'm assuming so he can see her movements and any messages.
The whole situation makes me so uncomfortable and concerned for her- is there any groups or sites I can go to for supporting her through this?