To be pissed off that he's ALWAYS late

[Whichwayyisup]

My boyfriend is always late. If we make plans to meet up say, 7 at home he will turn up at least half an hour late.

Fair enough if it's for something that requires you to be on time like a movie at the cinema then he will make it on time, albeit with a few minutes to spare before the start.

But pretty much any other plans he is NEVER on time.

AIBU to think I need to LTB?

I have a DH like that. His family are the same. EVERY time we go out I am stood by the door, coat on like a wally getting more and more irritated. He has zero concept of time. If you ask him how long he will be out you will get a standard response of a couple of hours. Even pointing out to him that it will take him at least an hour to drive to his meeting, never mind how long his meeting will take, the fact that he has to drive back and also plans on stopping off en route for a quick site stop he just does not get it.

When we underwent fertility treatment it was a nightmare. There were quite a few appointments that were time critical and we were always flying by the seat of our pants to get there or he would announce en route that he had no diesel or change for the carpark. He seriously had the belief that they would wait for us & because they were always running late would be grateful that we were late It made a very stressful time much worse.

It really upset me recently when my nephew commented how my DH and I are both late people. I am one of those people who leaves plenty of time and I hate the fact that I am now getting tarred with his tardy brush.

I actually think this may be a communication issue for the OP's BF. When you arrange to meet up at 7, he understands that to mean '7-7.30 or thereabouts'. You think it means 7pm (maybe within 5 minutes each way? Or no leeway at all?)

It may be easiest if you just learn to mentally translate each other's use of time. If there's a particular reason he needs to be somewhere at a specific time, he can do it, as you've said. But also, if he's coming round to yours, does it really matter exactly when?

Sounds like a power trip to me, if he can get there on time for the cinema etc.

It's a control mechanism