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tigerlill · 16/07/2017 11:27

At one time, I had a good group of best friends, we would ring each other, meet up and have a laugh. When my friends had a problem, I was there for them. (Problems with boyfriend, risk of losing their home, lending them money etc)
And when I announced that I was pregnant, they all offered to babysit for me and were joyful.
Then, a couple of weeks after giving birth, my partner left and I found myself moving house.
So, wanting support, I rang them up. The first one kept ending the call everytime I said hello, the other talked to me but only wanted to talk about her problems and finished the call fast when I started to tell mine and the other I couldn't get hold of.

Shugging it off, I messaged them on Facebook. Maybe they were just busy? I thought.
Then a few weeks later, I got a response from one of them - it wasn't nice. She said that they didn't want to be friends with me anymore and that I was never there for them! That one of my friends was suffering from depression and that I would only make things worse! They then blocked me on Facebook and blocked my number.

I was very upset and felt used. Guess their friendship was false all along. I now find it hard to make friends, I'm worried that it will happen again and I've had enough heartbreak.

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Groupie123 · 16/07/2017 11:32

Are you sure your DP didn't leave you for one of them? Timing sounds suspicious.


Patriciathestripper1 · 16/07/2017 11:35

Flowers op I know how you feel. I too was let down badly by supposed best friend.
It does shatter your trust in people.
I have made some new friends now but am cautious about what I share and what I do for them in return having been let down in the past.
I joined some groups and have different sets of friends now so all my eggs aren't in one basket. It will take you some time but you will make friends again.
I wouldn't bother trying to analyse what went wrong either as these women weren't real friends to you and it won't be your fault.


Louiselouie0890 · 16/07/2017 11:48

I think your in a hard place and you probably won't feel any better posting on a AIBU thread. I'd want an explanation by what they meant I wasn't there for them


tigerlill · 16/07/2017 12:12

I didn't know where else to post it.

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LucieLucie · 16/07/2017 12:40

This kind of happened to me years ago too, but no one had the good grace to tell me why they'd fallen out with me.

I'd get the brush off on the phone and excuses.

I gave up then found out they all went on a group holiday with my ex and his mates.

This was the guy that was violent and cheated on me (to their knowledge and never told me)

People are bizzare!

15 years later I get the fb friend requests from 2 of them - no thanks!!

Sometimes life gives us lessons in a harsh way, you are better off without these women if they behave so badly. If not one of them thought enough of you to speak to you about any problem then they've done you a favour.

It's a shame your ex left, timing is a bit suspicious with the witches coven also closing ranks but for your own sanity your probably best to not dig too much.

Move on with your baby, you'll meet new friends through baby groups. Flowers


tigerlill · 17/07/2017 07:39

Thankyou for all the support. I also agree that the timing was a bit odd as well but, I'm just going to carry on with my life and make new friends. If anything, this has tought me to be wary of people who want to be my friends.

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barbarann · 17/07/2017 08:07

Some people are just in it for themselves. It's them not you.

Someone who referred to me as her best friend recently ghosted me and blacked me in everything and I've no idea why. It hurts but fuck her and, OP, fuck them.

None of these people were genuine friends.

I hope you get past it and meet some decent people Smile

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