To be annoyed with this 'Dad's survival guide' stereotypical assumption

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The first paragraph in this really got my goat!! (See photo)

It seems to assume us pregnant ladies are ladies of leisure and simply wait home all day for our darling husbands to arrive home from work!

It's my partner who is home all day, as he's lucky enough to have a job where on average he works a few hours of an evening 3 days a week.

I'm the one heading out the door at 7:30am leaving him in bed and arriving home at 6pm if I'm lucky.
Why assume it's only the men who work the long hours??
Really made me mad reading that.
Perhaps it is hormones making me more annoyed or it could be because I'm just a little bit jealous of my partners cushie work!

He sounds like a wanker.

Misogynistic crap, I really hope it's not actually being recommended by anyone in the NHS.

It's such total bollocks. I wasn't an irrational hormonally insane lunatic when pregnant. I worked up until 37/38 weeks both times, in responsible jobs without issue. I was tired and had physical issues here and there, unsurprisingly. That was about it.

Ugh. I can just imagine the sort of smug wanker who thinks he's a great partner following all this crap...
I've never been pregnant but going by PMT would probably be more tearful. But even if pregnancy hormones do make someone more sensitive, this is not the way to deal with it! It should be "Pay extra attention to what your partner is saying..." type stuff, not "Ignore the hormonal cow, she doesn't mean it"!! Anything in there about doing household chores?

That's awful. If it was at least funny it wouldn't be so bad, but it's just crap, lazy stereotyping for the sake of it.

I hate seeing all the posts that say 'maybe I'm just being hormonal' as if we can't ever experience a negative emotion without it just being us being silly.

It is patronising and a bit sexist, but were none of you hormonal during pregnancy? I was a little like the article describes

treacle yes, that would be useful, wouldn't it? Everyone is different but at six weeks pregnant right now I am absolutely shattered - due to these pesky hormones - and the kindest thing my partner can do is a greater share of the household chores - and the running around after a toddler. Once I start to feel better, I'll do my fair share again. But all this wankfest seems to say about something practically useful like chores or childcare is "try giving her a bit of time off once in a while". I'm not sure why "time off" is his to bequeath, either....I wonder how many women read this before it was signed off?

Obviouspretzel of course women can be more affected by hormones during pregnancy. I cried reading my little boy 'Where The Wild Things Are' the other day, normally I don't cry at anything! Other factors come into play, anyone would be grumpier if they were constantly ill, tired or in pain - that is not only subject to being pregnant. There's no harm in recognising this, and quite frankly anyone with an ounce of common sense would understand. However, suggesting you need to apologise without question to a woman who's apparently become a human volcano is awful advice. If a woman is deliberately breaking or throwing things in a rage, that's not hormones, that's being abusive - especially if they're blaming you or suggesting you're the one who did it rather than them!

Pretzel I think I can honestly say that I've only been slightly more emotional. The best way to describe how I have been is just more intolerant. Pregnancy has held a magnify glass over any emotion I would have felt before so if someone kind of irritated me before, they are more irritating now if that makes sense. My DH never irritated me before and still doesn't now. So he certainly hasn't had to put up with me attacking him!

I think certain allowances are fair... for instance - "don't be annoyed if she is asleep by 7pm" etc but I don't think pregnant women should have free reign to act however she likes throughout pregnancy without considering anyone else's feelings!!

And besides, do people really need to hear relationship/marriage advice from a stranger writing crappy articles?? We do this thing called 'talking' where we sort out any issues between ourselves whilst retaining respect for one another.

Erm, the bit you took issue with was the assumption that women don't work out of the home?

Not the bit where women are reduced to idiots who can't control themselves - because that's the bit I'm wtf about.

The 1950s stereotype of a woman making dinner for her husband pales into insignificance next to that.

In my first pregnancy I worked until my due date as I had few maternity rights (things have come on a lot in terms of maternity leave/pay in the past 20 years). So I was holding down a full time professional job, not sitting at home being hormonal. In common with many, many women around the world. This is just sexist bull crap of the highest order.

I 100% agree its misogynistic crap but i also stormed out of my house when i was 11 weeks pregnant and slammed the door so hard it shattered the glass because he forgot to pick up milk on the way home.....yeah there's a tiny bit of hormonal truth to it and they do need to suck it up.

TheLuminaries, I agree. I started mat leave the week I gave birth as only 3 months paid mat leave then. The language and attitudes in this guide and on the website appear to be from the 1950s.

LouHotel so you justified that outburst? Did you apologise?

LouHotel it sounds like you are trying to justify your tantrum on the basis of 'hormones' - try that on a client or manager and see how far that toddler behaviour takes you in the grown up world the majority of women inhabit.

Grrr! My DH is a SAHD although I suppose he might come home from a bike ride to be greeted by me at home at the weekend?!

When I was pregnant I was having some stressful situations at work. When I got frustrated and tried to talk to my boss about them she (on 3 occasions) blamed it on my hormones! She did seem to deal with things better when she felt she was "helping me with my difficult pregnancy" rather than just doing her job!

I also worked to the day I started labour (a week before due date) as a teacher I only got 3 months full pay (and then a couple of hundred a month statutory).

Jenny that is infuriating!

I've showed it to my partner, and he was in stitches. It took him a good hour of giggles to get over it!

Oddly I managed to hold down a stressful job during my pregnancies - you wonder how, as apparently I was literally out of control.

Is it that stupid military bloke?

Also managed to work up to my due date, doing long days in a stressful job.

I'm sure many women are dissatisfied with the amount of support they get from their partner during pregnancy, particularly if they have other children to care for. How insulting that valid feelings about not stepping up to support your partner when she's absolutely exhausted are just her hormones and she doesn't mean it.