To buy them both the same toy?

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I have two DCs 20 months and almost 4. They are driving me to distraction fighting over the same toys. The worst offender is a dolls buggy which both of them want constantly. I have resisted buying another one as I think that as soon as I do they will just loose interest in them and fight over something else?

The constant scrapping and sulking is doing my head in though. I've tried taking it away if they fight but that just causes more meltdowns ( especially from DC1). The only thing that works if I helicopter them round the house, policing rigid turn taking with the aid of a kitchen timer...

DC1 s behaviour is generally not great at the moment - lots of 'threenager' attitude. And I've not wanted to give in to the dramas but it's getting ridiculous.

AIBU To just give in and buy a second buggy or will they just move the battles on to something else?

Wouldn't they then fight over who got the new one?

We have 2 close in age and yes, we have bought two of the same on a variety of toys. If you're talking about one of those cheap folding buggy type prams for £6 I would spend that in an instant to get a bit of peace and quiet.
I think things like a dolls pram, they're likely to both want to go out pushing them for a few years yet. My two love going out with their prams.
Get the same one though otherwise one will suddenly become the coveted one!

I always buy two of the same for my two, 6 and 4 year olds. It's just not worth the headache otherwise.

I have 2 boys (5 and 3).

They often fight over toys. A few months back, in a toy shop, I saw a toy train that I knew they'd like. Crazy reduction on it, so I bought them one each. Stop them squabbling over it if they've got an identical one each, right?

Wrong.
They now squabble over which one of them is theirs. Tugging train A back and forth, both screaming that train A is their train, while identical train B lies untouched by their feet

So anyway. If you think that they'll both want to play with buggys at the same time, go ahead and buy another, but don't count on it stopping the fighting.