Follow up to holiday antics thread....
Came home from holiday, went to bed and the next day packed dh bags. Before I could kick him out, 7yo dd started playing up by screaming the house down and refusing to let me leave her room. It's a behaviour she often does, she will shout and scream knowing I'll go to her to avoid 2yo being woken. She then invents reasons for me to stay and screams if I leave. I had a terrible migraine and begged her to stop but she wouldn't. Dh then came up and yelled at her and smacked her. I don't agree with smacking but as a last resort after months of being up 22 hours a day I let him do it as it worked.
He then came up to her room an hour later while she was still screaming and smacked her so hard there was a hand print!!!!
The very next morning (literally a few hours after she finally shut up) I packed a bag and after school we went to a hotel.
I gave dh until noon today (Saturday) to pack a bag and leave. I explained why in an email (alcoholism, getting kids to taste his alcohol, hitting 7yo way too hard etc). I sent the same message by email text and WhatsApp telling him he had til noon.
At noon I came home and he was in bed. I told him he had an hour then I'd call the police.
Came home late as went to visit family and he's still in bed. No signs of him moving at all. He set up his phone recording us (his phone is videoing the room!) which I can only assume is him gathering "evidence"!!
2yo is ill and I asked him to move so I could get into bed with her but he ignored me. I told him to leave and he ignored me.
I'm now on the flipping sofa!!!
It's sole tenancy as I moved in during a separation, took his name off as permitted occupier during another separation.
I want tO pack his bag when he goes to work on Monday and change the locks. If I do he will most definitely try to break back in. If I call the police I have the embarrassment of that and also the possibility of social services being called.
He has zero family to stay with and his only friend can't have him either. Last time I threw him out he left willingly and rented a room somewhere.
I have no local family and can't go far as dd is at school. No friends to help and council won't house me as I'm not homeless.
Aibu to just change the locks and dump his bag outside?????