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stolen inheritance

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 17:57

I suspect that my Stepfather has sold most of my mothers jewellery that was left to me in her will!..... He claims she sold it all, when i asked for the receipts he says he's thrown them out! Am not sure if i should inform police as i have no actual proof. Any advice would be welcomex

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 17:59

I suspect that my Stepfather has sold most of my mothers jewellery that was left to me in her will!..... He claims she sold it all, when i asked for the receipts he says he's thrown them out! Am not sure if i should inform police as i have no actual proof. Any advice would be welcomex
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GreenTulips · 15/07/2017 17:59

Depends on your relationship

But yes ring the police

Aquamarine1029 · 15/07/2017 18:00

This as awful. I'm so sorry. Do you have a list of the items she left to you? I think you may need a solicitor to help you through this.

Notreallyarsed · 15/07/2017 18:00

I'd ring the police. If your mum expressly left them to you then they belong to you.

Justhadmyhaircut · 15/07/2017 18:01

If the items are listed in a will then report to the police.
He has stolen them from you. .

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 15/07/2017 18:05

You cant prove anything. Although your DM made a will, your SF may well claim she sold/pawned the jewellery.

I have to say, when my DM passed I was left her jewellery, none of it to my taste and I sold it - and I didn't keep the receipts, so if your DM did sell her own jewellery, Why would she keep hers?

Very sorry for your loss. You don't need this strife.

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 18:25

She would never have sold her jewellery, all her family and friends think likewise!..He has given me some of it, but an awful lot is missing, alarm bells started ringing when we went to register her death, out of the blue he said she'd sold it, she's been dead over a year, its took me this long to the get the odd bits!....There is more, but when i asked he said he'd given me the lot!!! am not sure whether to ring police as i do know that most places that buy jewellery ask for I.D plus name and address

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RandomMess · 15/07/2017 18:43

Absolutely inform the police. Who is the executor of the will?

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 19:03

Myself and my stepfather are executors, have just received a copy of her will!! can't believe he has done this.

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HemanOrSheRa · 15/07/2017 19:17

Hmm. When is he saying that she sold it and what for? Why have you only just received a copy of your Mum's will? If you were both executors but wanted one person to deal with it then all executors need to agree. Were the items listed in her Will? Not having receipts is not an argument.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 15/07/2017 19:24

Well. All he has to say is, that your DM sold her jewellery, and he wasn't with her, so he doesn't know what shop/website she used.

I think you will find it very difficult TBH, to prove he sold it. You're working on a gut instinct. There is no proof.

Is it possible your SF may have needed the money to pay for her funeral?

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 20:08

He claims he does'nt know when and why! As for the will he said i did'nt need a copy, its took me over a year of nagging to finally get it. In the will it says ALL jewellery i do know for certain that Indian gold is missing and deffo two pandora bracelets that have disappeared, they were deffo in house after she died!!

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 20:13

No, she had life insurance and personal pensions and savings that covered the cost of her funeral! yes you are right i have no proof that he has sold it but there are distinctive pieces of jewellery that has gone missing since she died, he's denying all knowledge of it!!

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HemanOrSheRa · 15/07/2017 20:13

I don't understand how he could have executed the will if you were both executors. How did he do that?

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 20:18

We live 164 miles apart, iv'e just seen the will naming me as an executor, i don't know anything about wills never had to deal with one before.

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tina67 · 15/07/2017 20:21

Am going to get a solicitor to have a look at it, then see what he advises!!!.....Confused

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HemanOrSheRa · 15/07/2017 20:27

Yes. You must do this if you were a named executor. And asked your solicitor to get the Will file/notes.

BewareOfDragons · 15/07/2017 20:43

If you don't intend to have a future relationship with him, call the police.

SleightOfHand · 15/07/2017 20:48

If he's done it he'll never have any peace.

Floralnomad · 15/07/2017 20:53

Unless the pieces were individually named in the will I don't think you've got a leg to stand on , even the fact that you saw them after she passed is your word against his . Id just let it go and have nothing further to do with him .

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