Tell my to give my head a wobble!

[lovesickrockchick]

Please someone tell me to give my head a wobble and stop behaving like a love sick teenager!

To keep it brief, my partner and I have been together 15 years. We haven't been getting on and have all but split up. We still live together in the same house but have separate rooms and hardly interact.

A couple of months ago I met a new guy. He is totally different to my partner is very loving and demonstrative and tells me he loves me about a hundred times a day. New guy knows about partner btw.

Today I suddenly had a mad crisis of conscience thinking it could never work with new guy. Ex partner can be very jealous and possessive and is likely to take it out of the new guy. This guy doesn't deserve that. So I dumped new guy. It broke my heart to do it. But i have blocked his number and all ways he can contact me short of him turning up on my doorstep.

This afternoon a card arrived from new guy telling me how much he loves me. Obviously posted yesterday before the split. I have now spent the whole day mooning about and crying like a pathetic love sick ejit.

New guy is a singer in a rock band and he is playing a gig tonight - i have spent the entire night on Facebook trying to find pictures of the gig just so I can see him. Pathetic i know.

Tell me im having a midife crisis!

You're not having a midlife crisis.

Your brain is screaming at you however that it's time to finish the old properly so you can start the new.

Yeah total crisis of green grass over there.
Leave old p if you want. Take some time to breathe and in 2018 see about new guy.

Thank you for some perspective - fell into the grass is greener trap before turned out it was all brown and crappy. Need to leave properly and have some breathing space. If it is meant to happen later it will. Just hurts a lot right now

Seems a bit excessive to be telling someone you've only known a couple of months that you love them 100's of times a day. I'd be legging it!

Of course it hurts. You dont leave easily. So many 'I left and met a man and it was shit' posts on here. If it's wrong then leave. I did. I spent a couple of years figuring out my needs and met a man who ticked those boxes without even trying.