Dad's gf selling mum's things?

[andshewillbeloved]

Mum died 4 years ago and dad has moved on and got a new gf. Fair enough. We haven't always seen eye to eye but now we get on.

Dads putting the family home up for sale to move in with her and I've just gone on fb to discover a list of my mum's things - ornaments, lamps, pictures (decorative) - for sale on the marketplace thing on his gf's fb page.

Aibu to feel a bit weird about this?

I would be absolutely furious. Call your dad and speak to him about it. Is he even aware that she is going this?

Yanbu how insensitive of her.

Sorry *doing

That's very thoughtless. Is there anything you'd like to keep?

I would find that very hurtful as well

YANBU. I would be cross, they are not hers to sell, even if your Dad has asked her to/is letting her do it, it is still wrong somehow. Is she selling anything of your mum's that you might want to keep?

Unless she has permission from your Dad, then effectively she is stealing the items. They don't belong to her.
Get over there straightaway and claim back what is rightfully yours (or at least your Dad's)

To someone else they are just 'things' op.

Did you get the chance to pick anything for yourself from your mums things when she died to remember her by?
I know it may seem insensitive but it's probably not ment with malice.
If you feel bad about it, have a word with your dad.

What do you want to happen to these things? Do you want them, or do you think your dad should keep them?

My mum died 7 years ago, and there's not a chance in hell anyone will ever sell, give away or throw away anything that belonged to her, i wouldn't allow it. If my dad decided he didn't want it, i would consider the ownership to pass to me and my sister.
As it goes my dad worshipped my mum so he wouldn't want to get rid of her things, there's random bits of jewellery on mantel pieces and the shelf in the bathroom just left where she took it off last. Her clothes were vacuum bagged to store them, but nothing has been gotten rid of at all.
It's comforting having one or two things about as she left them, like the decorative arrangements she put together on the mantelpieces in vases, or the glass plate with the fancy candle and the glass beads she made a centrepiece out of. 99% of the house is kept functional and her things have been packed away, but those little touches i get to see everyday, it's nice.
I'd honestly comment on everything she is selling that those are your deceased mothers belongings and not hers to sell.

Yes I would get round there, and salvage your mums stuff for yourself. Is your dad aware of this!