To think the school report shouldn't be the first time I find this out?

[LittleMisslikestobebythesea]

Got the school reports today, DS1 (year 6) had a good report. The only thing that annoyed me was it says he needs to improve his writing, he has dysgraphia and a report from occupational therapy to say he should use a laptop for all his work as its severe, and his handwriting won't improve

But DS2's report (yr 4) says cause for concern in progress in maths, English and science! I know he had extra handwriting classes earlier in the year but the teacher said he had progressed enough so they finished those.

It would have been nice if the teacher had informed me rather than me reading it in the end of year report! AIBU to think they could have told me sooner?

What did the teacher tell you at parents evening?

Yabu. Have you not been looking at his homework? For a whole school year???

Last parents evening was February and yes I've looked at his homework though it's been sporadic, they don't seem to get it regularly!

Go and ask them calmly for the reason, and what they could help do about it.

Appalling that the teacher would spring this on you in his report.

I will ask them calmly, I'm just surprised that this is the first I've heard!

YANBU, it's not great that the teacher hasn't let you know about this sooner. Arrange a meeting to discuss progress and see if there is anything you can do to help him over the summer.

Yanbu I received DS and he's go back over since his last report. His spelling is a major concern so we have arranged an meeting to discuss his progress this year so things can be put in place for next and look at what level he needs to work towards. This wasn't addressed in last parents evening but I had wish they had contacted me to discuss it. I'm now looking at him being assessed for dyslexia

I also add I don't always see homework as his school have a homework club where he tends to do his homework

It may be that you should have been told before but as a teacher I do know that whenever I tell a parent about a difficulty or issue that has arisen the parent ALWAYS say, "Why wasn't I told before? Why am I only being told now?" I sometimes think I need to get a crystal ball and start telling parents things before they happen.

only I had spoken to her about the handwriting thing earlier in the year and I been very supportive, I wouldn't have said she should have told me sooner, I would never say that, I'm just upset that I had to find out he was so behind in a report.

I have the approach of going to assemblies etc, going to parents evening, speaking to teachers if I have a concern, and other than that presume if I don't hear anything then my kids are doing ok?

Why are people asking if the OP has seen her DC's homework? The only time I see my DC's homework is while he is producing it. It then goes into school and disappears into a black hole, all I see is a tick on his homework sheet from the teacher acknowledging it has been received.
There is certainly no indication if the homework he is doing is what they expect of him.

Have you not been looking at his homework? For a whole school year?

How do you suppose looking at homework will tell the op anything about his progress in maths, English and science?Just interested to know.

YANBU - sometimes I think us parents are speaking into an invisible wind. DS - transfer to ECHP agreed 6 months ago, including the need to use a keyboard for coursework and exams and funding for a pt 1:1. DS is in yr10. First implementation was 'handwriting' lessons! 6 months later it still seems to be unacknowledged by teaching staff the need to use a keyboard (fully assessed and recommended by many professionals) or that the ECHP is a legally-binding document that is there for a purpose. Hopefully the 1:1 TA that has only just been appointed can help this happen.

The difficult thing for me is that school means well and staffed by very nice people. But so frustrating.