Friend hurting younger sister at wedding

[everasbeforee]

I don't think I am being unreasonable in the slightest but I need others opinions..

I recently got married, the wedding was lovely and everyone had a great time. However, one of my evening guests acted appallingly. She arrived very drunk with a friend in tow who I have never met, also very drunk. I don't mind people having a drink or having a good time and most of us were merry anyway. However, my five year old sister was my flower girl. She was up on the dance floor the all night, dancing with most of my friends. Our Mum was also on the dance floor and she was well supervised. Previously mentioned drunk friend started dancing with my sister, picking her up and swinging her around. She was so drunk that she dropped my baby sis headfirst on the dance floor. My sister was upset but okay.

Now accidents happen but she didn't apologise on the night, to myself or my Mum. My partner had words the next day in which the friend apologised but she hasn't said two words to me since the wedding which was almost two weeks ago. My sister still has a massive gash on her head from being dropped (attached a picture). I can't believe this so called friend hasn't contacted me to apologise for disgraceful behaviour.

Am I being unreasonable to want to cut her off for this?

I would cut her off without hesitation. She showed up wasted at your wedding, brought a drunk friend, and then dropped your sister in her HEAD and never apologised?! You can find much better friends.

You didn't immediately tell her to leave at the time?
I would cut her off then!

I didn't know what had happened until the end of the night when my Mum told me! Otherwise I would have told her in person.

Cut her out! She should be apologising and have bought yr sis a gift to say sorry. I would only forgive if she was mortified and apologetic.

Well definitely cut her out now. She's not acting like a friend so she isn't your friend.

How dare she! Sorry but unless she was blinding drunk that she collapsed and passed out, I don't care how drunk you are, something like that would sober you up VERY quickly. Or at the very least cue lots of drunken, sobbing apologies. The fact she didn't apologise to you or your sister the next day is disgusting. I'd be furious and never speak to her again unless she gave a sincere and heartfelt apology.

I'm glad that Im not overreacting! I will definitely cut her out.. I just can't believe someone would not apologise for this. My sister could have been seriously hurt.

Ooh that is a nasty gash - your poor wee sister
Did you say this 'friend' turned up with someone you hadn't invited ? - She sounds awful, and dreadful that she hasn't apologised.

I think your friend has a drinking problem she's not ready to admit to, hence the ignoring you. She's trying to cut the entire incident out of her life, if indeed she even remembers it, she may just have a vague feeling she's done something embarrassing.
I've made a bit of a leap there but I don't know anyone that would turn up to an event already very drunk and with someone who hadn't been invited and proceed to get more drunk and behave in an out of control manner.

Send her photo and explain why you are cutting her out.

I don't think she has a drink problem, I think she's just one of those people who always causes issues as it's not the first incident we've had with her and the other times haven't involved alcohol.

If she is a good friend and generally decent person, then I would guess that she is embarrassed or in denial about her drinking and attendant behaviour.

Or maybe she's just a cunt.

Your poor little sister, what a fright she must have got. I'm so glad she's ok.

Congratulations on your wedding....

this is NOT acceptable on any scale .. I hope she's okay OP... xx

Maybe she thinks that because your partner had words with her instead of you doing it that you don't want to discuss it? And, in that case, as she apologised to partner there's no need to apologise to you / you don't want her to apologise in person but via your partner?

I agree with Nike regarding the apology but would have hoped she'd ask how your sister is
I would bother with her now

So you weren't there when sis was hurt?

You only have other people's version of events and they were drunk?

If sis was being supervised how did it happen?

I hope little one is OK.

There were at least 30 witnesses. Also she was supervised but no one was expecting my friend to pick my sister up and drop her on her head. Especially as it was the first time she'd even met my sister. My sister was dancing and my friend started dancing with her.. then picked her up.

I do agree that maybe because my partner spoke to her she thinks I don't want her to talk to me but I still can't believe she hasn't asked after my sister or even said anything about the wedding in general.

Also just to let everyone know, my baby sister is absolutely fine. Currently jumping up and down at her school disco.

How dare she!

How dare she show up at your wedding drunk, how dare she put your sister at risk and how dare she injure your sister. She should be crawling on her hands and knees, begging for your forgiveness and that of your sister and mother.

She is NOT your friend. Dump her like a hot potato.

Your poor wee sister, that looks a sore one. I agree with PP, I just wouldn't contact her again.

She needs to apologise to your sister. Might be your wedding but it's your sister's head.

in the nicest possible way these threads baffle me

your friend is queen cunt of cuntland, Its a no fucking brainer!

why would you even need to check!!!! Its like "this friend stole my car, stole my husband and beat up my cat, AIBU to cut her off"

defriend

She should be crawling on her hands and knees, begging for your forgiveness and that of your sister and mother.
A little OTT. I don't think begging is required. And certainly not of the mother. An apology to the sister since it was her who got dropped on the head would be nice, maybe to OP as it was her wedding - but I'd still say that as she'd apologised to partner that should suffice as far as OP is concerned. After all - she didn't see it & it didn't exactly ruin the wedding day as OP didn't find out till she was told at the very end. Let's try and get things in perspective a bit

^ I would agree with you but she didn't even apologise to my sister at the time. Her and her friend scuffled off into another area of the venue without even saying anything to anyone. Even if she apologised to my partner, which by the way was so half hearted that it shouldn't even really be classed as an apology, I just can't believe she hasn't said anything to me in regards to the whole wedding.

The cut is on the top of her head.. things could have been so much worse than they were and although my sister is okay, I'm really angry at her for not being responsible enough to know not to swing a child around when drunk. Her excuse was that my sister had asked to be picked up, passing on the blame to a five year old is classy.

I should also mention she later got stranded at the venue because she was so drunk no taxi would take her and her friend.

She sounds an arsehole! Get rid. Who comes to a wedding smashed with an uninvited guest (!) and drops a FIVE year old on her head? Appalling.