Is it weird to separate ashes?

[TippyTinkleTrousers]

I don't know where to ask this but everyone on here has been so kind to me the last week or so that I just wanted to ask here.

I got my baby's ashes back today.
My heart hurts, I can't even describe it.

I'd bought a locket to put his ashes in because I wanted him with me.
But even though he was tiny, there's too much ashes for the locket. Presumably because we was cremated within something.

So now I'm not sure what to do.

The locket was designed for baby ashes.

You do what you feel most comfortable with. Whether that be separating them and putting some in the locket and some in a vase or scattering some in a special place. Whatever brings you most comfort.

We have separated a family member's ashes so we could scatter them at different places that were important to them. I don't think it's unusual.

Sorry for your loss.

Maybe get something to keep the rest in at home too?
A locket is a lovely idea though.

I hope it brings you comfort. .

I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the heartbreak of losing a child.
It is not unusual to separate ashes at all. Maybe you could keep some in the locket and find a lovely, calm place to scatter the rest where you can remember him.

Aw my heart really goes out to you, I lost my baby too and your heart certainly does hurt 💐

At a time like this you do whatever feels right. How about keeping some in the locket & putting some in your favourite spot/your garden?

No I don't think it's weird to separate the ashes at all, I didn't but I know people that have

My cousin also lost her baby and they have the ashes in a poem stone in the garden but she also has a small amount inside a locket, it gives her comfort.

When my uncle died his partner kept a small amount in a special little box and the rest in his favourite place.

Ok thank you.

I don't think it's weird at all. I know lots of people who have had a small amount of ashes separated in order to have jewellery made. They get great comfort from having their baby with them all the time.

When the undertaker put my baby's ashes into her urn he deliberately didn't permanently glue the lid shut, just in case I ever decided to do the same. I'm still toying with the idea tbh.

And I'm very sorry for your loss. I've been there; I hope you're doing okay (as well as you can me iyswim).

Sorry for your loss.
I don't think it's weird at all. We have a bit of mum's ashes in a little box, the rest were scattered. It gave us comfort to know she was always there, now we wouldn't be without her.

definitely not odd to seperate ashes, I have PMd you to avoid outing myself, but when our DC passed, we separated the ashes.

Its a very personal thing, and you have o do what feels right to you - Our choices raised some eyebrows among the older generation, but it suited us