White to a weddingy type event

[FakePlantsOnly]

DP and I have been invited to a meal to celebrate DPs dad getting married in January. They're having a meal because the wedding was in Austria and obviously not everyone could go. I wasn't sure what to wear as it's not an actual wedding but it feels more important than you're regular sit down meal.

I messaged DPs sister to find out what she was wearing and she's going in a white dress; this has prompted a discussion between DP and I as to whether this is appropriate. Basically I would just like to know what other people think

[MrsOverTheRoad]

I wouldn't. Is the bride wearing her dress? Many do at these things.

[Notsosureanymoors]

You dont wear white to a wedding. Any type of wedding event.

[BabyLlama]

Personally I can't see a problem with it. If it's not the actual wedding, then it's not detracting from the bride in any way. It's a formal meal so dressing appropriately for the occasion is key. If it doesn't look like a wedding dress then there shouldn't be an issue

[Thingvellir]

Not appropriate, it's a celebration of the bride and groom so a guest wearing a white would be wrong IMO

[CheeseOfHearts]

But it's not a wedding. It's a meal out. As long as DPs sister is not actually wearing a wedding dress (which would be rather weird) I can't see why it would be an issue.

[GeillisTheWitch]

I wouldn't wear white to an actual wedding, but a meal to celebrate a wedding that took place months ago? I don't think that's as much of an issue. As long as its not an actual bridal dress.

[AuntieStella]

I wouldn't wear white to any form of party for a wedding (or red, for some cultures). plenty of other colours to choose from.

[EastMidsMummy]

Wear what you like. It's not a wedding.

[FakePlantsOnly]

If the bride were to wear her dress it was red as she didn't want to wear white as she was remarrying.

From what she's told me it's just a white knee length dress with white embroidered flowers.

She has sent me a picture but I'm struggling to figure out how to upload it

[FakePlantsOnly]

Dress in question

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

The bride wore red? Massive drip feed, no issue at all in that case, why would there be . But even if she didn't wear red that white dress is so plain and ugly it couldn't upstage the wait staff not to mind the bride so she'd be fine

[CoughLaughFart]

The bride wore red? Massive drip feed

It really isn't.

[thethoughtfox]

It's not OK. White is a traditional signifier of the bride.

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

Of course it is a drip feed, you don't wear white so you don't upstage the bride, if they aren't wearing white then it's a complete non issue

[CoughLaughFart]

Read it properly - this isn't the wedding. The colour of dress she wore to a different event is irrelevant.

[VladmirsPoutine]

For some reason I think it's really you that wants to wear white but you're telling this story using 'DPs sister.'

Either way, wearing white to a wedding and even a weddingy event really isn't on. There are many colours, pastel colours would even be better than pure white.

[FakePlantsOnly]

Sorry for the drip feed, was completely unintentional.

I've got my outfit all sorted, thanks. I've only asked because DP and I are disagreeing over it and I like being right. He doesn't see the issue with it because it's not an actual wedding but I just don't feel it's appropriate to go anywhere near anything related to someone else's wedding in a white dress

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

I did read it properly CoughLaughFart, of course it's relevant. So the bride didn't wear white to her wedding, she still isn't wearing white to her non wedding, so other guests can't wear white to a meal in a restaurant to celebrate a wedding at which the bride herself did not wear white? Ffs

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

Your dh is right op, imo, sorry