Y3 birthday party invitation. Don't know what to do... Aibu? Help me please!

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My youngest son has been invited to one of his friends from the school birthday party. I know his mum very well and she is lovely. I was happily received the invitation, did the rsvp, bought the present, made card already, all fine. Yesterday while they were eating their lunch my son has been told by the birthday boy that he is not invited to his party and he does not expect him to attend at all. When my son came and said that to me I felt sad and confused. Aibu to not attend to the party? I know the mum was very kind to invite my son but I wouldn't like to turn up to the party and expose my son to mean comments from the birthday boy as he was very clear about not expecting my son at his celebration. Gosh! I hate all this tricky situations. What would you do please? Thank you!

Have they had an argument at school? Could you ask the mum why her son said that?

Accept that 8 year olds say mean things one day and are best friends the next? Of course still take him to the party!

I would speak to the mum about it. Sounds like a silly spur of them moment comment from the birthday child designed to hurt your son.
You say the mum is lovely - I would definitely try and resolve the issue with her. It'll probably all blow over.

I would also just ask the mum if she knows if there's been a fallout of any kind

Some kids do act a bit stuck-up when their birthday party is coming up. When is the party? If it's eat, I would have a chat with the mum.

I wouldn't say anything and I'd just go to the party as planned.

*near not eat

Surely since you get on well with the mum you just ask her?

Thank you. I don't know what to do yet...more answers are welcome! This never happened to me before but I can see now that 8 years old children can be very mean and I don't want my son to suffer because he is a very shy and kind nature. I'm overprotecting him?

Don't say anything and go to the party. If the birthday child is unpleasant at the party then talk to the mum, if she hasn't already noticed it.

I think it's pretty likely this tiff will be forgotten before the party anyway, so no point angsting over it.

An invitation to your birthday party is currency amoung children. "Your not coming to my party" a regular taunt. "Do this and you can come to my party". I expect it will have blown over by party day. Kids can be really vile to each other x

Does your son want to go? Are there any of his friends going as well? Will you be staying or just dropping off?

Would party child's Mum be likely to have a word with her son about being kind or would she brush it off?

If it's an all class party and your son is happy to go then I would turn up. If it's a handful of children and he doesn't now want to go, I would speak to the parent and say there seems to be an issue and after what was said yesterday, your son no longer feels like he wants to go.

Contact the mum and say her Ds has uninvited your ds and you're just checking what the score is. The appropriate response is for her to speak to her ds and get him to understand that uninviting people isn't on.

I think kids say stuff like this to each other all the time, and as parent to a DS the same age, I would be completely ignoring and taking him along to the party as usual.

I would just go to the party too. Unless your ds is very upset, then I would talk to the mum and find out what's going on.
I would make as little fuss about it as possible and it will all be forgotten about.
When is the party?