To be concerned?

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I've never posted before but I wanted some anonymous advice and my friend suggested I post in here!

I have a friend who is Godmother to another friends child, my friend has this child every weekend and has done for about a year, i just want to know how normal this is? I know she loves being in the child's life but I have concerns that they could be taking advantage of her and using her when they can't be bothered there's been a few times, they have rang my friend and said the child is being naughty so can you have her for a few hours. I don't want to cause an argument so I haven't said anything but it's really irritating me, I also understand that I probably have no right to feel like this but it annoys me when people take advantage of nice people.

Its not your situation to get involved in.

Your friend is an adult and can say no, but chooses not to.

How does your friend feel about it?

It's not your place if your friend has said she's unhappy with the situation or feeling used then there is no issue! I have one of my goddaughters a lot another Hardly ever I always see her with her mum there is no right or wrong if everyone is happy!

What do you mean by you 'probably' have no right to feel like this?

You have no right at all, assuming they're all adults exercising their own free will.

I think it's really nice of her actually and I'm sure they appreciate it.

She loves the child and loves having her around but does sometimes feel they take advantage, she's potty trained her, got her off dummy's and got her to sleep in a bed instead of a cot. It got to the point where they were ringing her asking for advice on the child. I know she won't say anything because she'll be scared they stop her from coming and Palm her off with someone else

They have her 3 days a week. Yes I know I have no right but I don't like seeing people getting took advantage of and yes they're all adults but I know my friend won't say anything

If your friend enjoys the time with her Godchild and has no problem with it, I really don't understand what your issue is? Are you concerned for your friend or are you in some way resentful?

Well that's a bit of a drip-feed to put it mildly.

There's nothing you can do if she won't speak up for herself really.

The second your friend tells you that she does not want to mind the child as much is the moment it becomes taking advantage. Granted, it's not a situation I'd want with my own DD or my Godchildren, but horses, courses etc.

Why would I be resentful? I don't have children yet. I'm genuinely concerned for my friend and the child a little bit. I think her parents should spend more time with her considering they only have her 3 times a week

I can't imagine these free loaders would suddenly stop her seeing the child if she said no occasionally. Unless they have a long line of waiting suckers who want to do free childcare for them, I suppose?

Like I said, I haven't posted before so I'm sorry for the dripfeed

Yep, bit of a drip feed indeed. The time spent away from her parents is absolutely excessive if what you say is true. But realistically, I don't know what you can possibly do about it if both parents and friend are happy with the situation.

My friends sister has her through the week but yes I think they would find someone else to take over if she said no, I forget t to mention my friend doesn't have kids of her own either.

I love my Godchildren, and have taken a vow to care for them, so am happy to be the extra parent chosen by the Mum and Dad, and who choose to accept the position.

I don't either I just wanted others opinions or advice and as I suspected, I'm just being interfering