Cheeky to ask for contribution?

[Scampifriesareyum]

Friend came round last night and we had a BBQ, both young and first jobs out of uni. We went to the shops together and I grabbed my card as she reached for hers - was about 30 quid so not isogkodicant. Normally we would split but when she mentioned it I stupidly said ah no don't worry and then backtracked and said yes that would be good!

Can I ask? What should I say?

*Insignificant

isogkodicant what's that mean? I tried to guess

Erm you can still ask. If you backtracked she knows you want it

If you normally split costs and you both agreed to do the BBQ then that was fine. If however you invited her to yours for dinner, and chose to spend that much you were rude IMO.

Did she hear you say yes that would be good after you offered to pay?
If not I would chalk it up to experience and never do it again.

You mean she didn't hear you and you're wondering if, later on, you can ask her for cash?

That would be rude. If you can't afford to spend that much money you should've arranged something cheaper.

Too late now surely?

We both agreed - in her position I would have offered, I always do! I'm really generous but can't afford to just shoulder costs for everything by myself - we shared the food half and half.

She was down for another reason and I offered to put her up.

My flatmates asked me to get a few things for her too and I split cost into 3 (so technically friend owes me 10), is that cheeky too? That I asked flatmates.

I think it's cheeky to chase the visiting friend for a tenner: poor form!

For the flatmate we always said exactly what their items cost and paid money before or v soon after.

Fine i won't chase friend