Which of my kids is BU?

[LastMangoInPeckham]

DS1 is trying teach himself to whistle. He wanders around making low pitched "whee-ooo" type sound.

DS2 finds this noise intensely annoying. He keeps saying "stop that sound I hate it".

Should DS1 stop with the annoying noise or should DS2 be more tolerant?

Stop the annoying noise.

DS1 should go and make the noise in a room where no one can hear him.

Noise maker shout take himself off somewhere where he doesn't annoy anyone.

A bit of compromise I think. Your whistling son can't do it all the time, it would annoy most people. He should practice in his room. Occassionally past that, and your other son shOuld accept, but the whistler needs to curtail his efforts.

Can he not do it in his room or outside? Or failing that, within an alloted time frame (say, 20 minutes "practice" per day)?

Walking around incessantly whistling - if that's what he's doing - could be a touch irritating.

He can learn to whistle in his room or away from his brother so it's him for me!

They should both learn to whistle. Then they can annoy each other, or maybe just you, but still, it's a great skill

Because - if my DS2 could whistle, he'd be less annoyed by his whistling brother!

Ds1."your noise is irritating, go to your room and practice"
Ds2 " If ds1 sees you getting irritated he will continue. Put headphones on if you are bothered"

Bit of both. Ds1 shouldn't make the noise in a room ds2 was in first. If ds1 is in a room "practicing" and ds2 walks in he doesn't get to tell him to stop.

The whistler needs to learn a bit of consideration for others and whistle in his room. It sounds like he's doing it to wind his brother up or get attention really.

The whistler needs to practice his craft in private. This would drive me mad. He needs to learn some consideration.

DS1 is being unreasonable and inconsiderate.

Make him do it in his room. Walking around making a repetative noise isn't on.

The whistler is BU. He should take himself off for a walk to practice his whistle.

Thanks everyone. Your feedback is very helpful.

Love the comment from aqua that he should "practice his craft in private".

I shall be using those very words myself with him later before I send him off to a designated area!

Sounds as if one of your DCs has misophonia (selective sound sensitivity). The whistling attempts probably sound to him like nails on a blackboard.

DS2 probably cannot become more tolerant if this is him. The sound will never be less intensely annoying. It will continue to drive him nuts.

Doesn't have to be Misophonia. Could just be normal irritation.

I don't have that but can't bear it when my DC have one particular friend around as she hums all the time.

ask him to practice in head first? ;)