To leave one teacher out of the present giving?

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Hi! Ds will be leaving nursery next week. It's a 2 class nursery but the staff team all work together. There are two teachers, his teacher who is wonderful and he adores and the other one who is "in charge" but is a waste of fresh air. She's absent/on courses 2/3 times a week and her class is taught by a sucession of supplies, ds really doesn't like her and says she shouts all the time and (most important to me) we had a very serious safeguarding issue recently, we actually kept him at home for a couple of days until it was sorted. She was utterly useless, couldn't care less and didn't even bother to tell his class teacher why he was off.
So, presents. I absolutely love the nursery and all the rest of the staff. His teacher has got a special present, the others have all got a gift and he's chosen them all himself but he just shrugs when I ask what to get for the other teacher. Aibu to just leave her out? I probably am aren't I ?

...... And play still, lots and lots of it

I get the impression you think she's going to care.

I've never come aross one, as far as I can see on google there aren't any in my county

When my dc were at nursery the nursery was told not to try to teach anything before they went to school, it was a while ago so I can't remember why it was, I think it was so as not to confuse children if the school they went to taught in a different way. The nursery wasn't attached to any school.

Looking back I'm glad they did it that way,

Yes I think that's still the advice given to private day nurseries, they don't have teachers and are mainly viewed as "childcare"
School run nursery classes however tend to do a little bit more of the formal stuff, depending on age and stage and do often employ a teacher of some sort. I guess different areas have different ideas about this. Ds has his birthday on 6th September and would have been the oldest in his day nursery. We were worried about him getting bored and a bit silly especially because all the 2-5 year olds were mixed together. So we switched him to this school nursery and he's loved it. Depends on the child though.

Without being rude she might not even notice!
When I worked in a nursery I was overwhelmed with presents from the 80 children who all seemed to what to give something to both teachers and nursery nurses. We had a supply nursery nurse in for the day who seemed to end up being given some presents by confused children. We ended up with piles of presents whilst we were trying to look after the children as normal and when the children had gone my nursery nurse and I realised our piles had merged. We sorted those which had our names on them but the rest we just split (she got the candles/smellies and I got biscuits and stationary).

I was quite overwhelmed with their generosity but more so with the personal comments written in some of the cards.

I would put the presents in a bag, turn up to nursery and distribute gifts if Crap Teacher not there.