miscarriage

[sycamoresally]

Aibu to ask about your medical management of your miscarriage?

Sadly I've miscarried. I've to go into hospital tomorrow to be given medication for it to pass. Can anyone tell me if they've had this before?

Ive declined surgery in favour of miscarriage at home with whatever it they're giving me. I think it might be a pessary.

Hopefully someone can shed some light on this and tell me their experiences

I forgot to say that I think whether or not you find it painful may depend on whether or not you have already had a child. I had before my miscarriages and didn't find them particularly painful at all when medically managed. A friend who hasn't had children found it much more painful.

Ive just had a medically managed miscarriage in hospital on sunday with pessarys i was 10 weeks 3 days but baby stopped developing at approximately 6 weeks. i have also had 3 previous natural miscarriages and this one was by far my worse 14 hours of contractions 10 hours of them where horrific, passing big clots before finally passing baby and placenta all the pains went away as soon as i passed baby n placenta. But never felt pain like it i was on paracetamol, tramadol, morphine and gas and air nothing touched the pain. I have 1 child born via planned c section so have no experience of child birth but can only think this is what i experienced, i was having contractions every couple of minutes and the urge to push when every blood clot hit my cervix i didnt have any bleeding just big blood clots but i was traumatised from this experience. My 3 previous natural miscarriages where now where as bad as this just like a heavy period. I personally would never pick this option again but alot of experiences ive read about dont seen as bad as my experience i have very heavy and painful periods but this was a whole other level of pain.

I was 10wks when I went for a scan. However baby had gone at 7wks 3days. My body still thought I was pregnant.

I wasn't allowed surgical management due to covid. (This was may 2020)

So I had to have the medical management. Which I got the tablets etc on 28th May and I started bleeding that day. It was getting heavier so I thought that was it. However it wasn't until 7th June that I finally passed the baby.

I found it totally horrendous and the fact I had to go to hospital etc for it all alone was even worse. My 1st miscarriage and due to a fucking virus I had to go to get it confirmed alone, choose my options alone about 10 mins after being told that yes my baby is dead.

The nurse was lovely but was forcing me into decisions when I was trying to talk to my dh over WhatsApp (no signal in hospital but they had wifi)

I don't think I managed to deal with my loss properly due to the whole way it was dealt with etc. The baby would've been due on 11th December 2020.

My rainbow was born on 15th May 2021.

Also when mine did actually start to pass I was at work and I started getting contractions all night. I had to tell my manager what was happening because I wouldn't have been able to come in the following night. I remember writhing in pain when I got home in the morning from the contractions then once it passed, the pain stopped and the bleeding started easing.

@Pippiloula85 I'm really sorry for your loss - you will probably get more replies if you create a new thread in the pregnancy loss section rather than posting on an old thread (this was first posted in 2017)