to think our neighbour is unreasonable

[powder28]

I have just been out to check our post box and one of our [weird] neighbours has written on his:

POSTMAN PLEASE KEEP YOUR JUNKMAIL-I DONT WANT ANY LEAFLETS, PAPERS, DOMINOS FLYERS ETC

Surely its not the job of the postPERSON to do this!

I think thats probably it, yes...

I just meant that his skin could be flaking for any number of reasons and it doesn't matter if they are infectious or not, if they made her feel icky and want to wipe her babys hand, so what? He didn't know, no harm done

It was more the way it was worded:

'I was holding my ds2 and while this man was talkling to me he touched my sons hand!!
Anyway, i cut thwe conversation short and took ds2 inside and wiped his hand with a wetwipe. Seriously this guy scratches his head and skin seems to fall like snow.'

Poor guy. He is an OLD MAN ffs, if someone was saying this about my grandfather I would be so upset.

I DO get how it is a bit 'icky', but its skin.

So seriously - why does the flyers thing bother folk so much? ANYONE got a reasonable explanation?!

Flyers don't bother me but they should cos they drive my dog potty and she goes racing to the door, head out the cat flap and barks like a loony at the postie
Who scratches under her chin and laughs at her - doesn't do her image any good

And then I pick them up and chuck them in the bin unread

waste of time, effort and trees

Not for everyone!

Some people actually read and use the flyers they get through the door you know!!

wow....neighbors like you poweder28 are one of the reasons I HATED living in england. Nosey judgmental intolerant are words that come to mind. Why on earth do you equate being different with being untouchable or weird. And how can you justify calling someone names because you don't understand their appearance.
Your poor elderly neighbor. Maybe he is just cold all the time. Personally I don't think there were more than a dozen days in the year that I went out without a coat.
And not wanting junk mail...I am so with him on that one!!! I just feel sorry for him that he doesn't know the tricks for getting rid of it.
Maybe you should get off your snotty high horse and see if the poor man needs a little help. Tell him how to contact the direct mail association (forget what it's called in the uk) and how to contact the senders of junk mail to stop them sending it.

This guy is not elderly. Why did you assume he was elderly? HE is a young guy, and I have every right not wanting him to touch my child.
As for the junk mail i was asking if it was the postmmans job to not post it.
The question was answered ages ago.
Sofia, ive never met you and i have no idea what you are like, but I think you are being very aggressive.
He probably had PENISY HANDS as well!

Sorry Powder, I agree with Sofia.

You come across as being very judgmental about someone who chooses to wear a hat and coat and appears to have a skin condition.

• why does this make him weird????

I agree you have every right not to want anyone to touch your child, but the reasons why you have given here seem slightly irrational.

Just to point out that putting pressure on the postmen and women would make no difference to the leaflets being delivered.

They get paid an extra coupe of quid for doing them and I know that given the choice they would rather not do them, especially when it is busy.

If you are going to complain about it then you need to go higher up than the person delivering it.

to opt out of unadressed rubbish you have to write to the post office. Info here - talk about making it difficult

Wasn't there a tale here about someone who put a bin outside their front door with a note saying all junk mail here please, and the postie acknowledged it and put all their junk mail in it. Mine goes straight into the recycling.

f-ing ignorant gits about skin conditions.

sounds like you don't like him because he's a bit odd and this is giving you another reason not to like him. I wonder what he thinks of you tbh.

sorry but I think this post puts you in a nasty light that you didn't intend

There are kids in the school where I teach who have horrific skin conditions. This thread shows how far society still has to go to stop these sort of sad, sad attittudes .

I feel i should apologise for any offence caused by my comments about my neighbour.
Having read my comments back i can see they do sound very insensitive.

I didnt actually consider that he might have a skin condition. I was referring more to the fact that his behaviour and general demeanor seemed odd. He also has personal hygiene issues, which is ok, but i just didnt think it was approprite for him to touch my son.

Of course it is unacceptable to make hurtful comments about someone regardless of who they are or what they do, or any condition they may have.

I do speak to my neigbour if I see him, and his potbox is right next to mine on a wall so that is how I read the note.

I will also give him the information on stopping junk mail so thank you for the links.

cool post powder

Thanks poweder28. I am particularly sensitive to skin issues because my dd had terrible excema until she was 2 and it would be cracked and bleeding and I could adults grimace and avoid touching her and it just killed me.

I found out by accident that the best way to get rid of junk mail is to write on the envelope "DEAD, RETURN TO SENDER." The man that we bought our house from died a few months after we bought it and junk mail kept arriving for him and I kept writing polite notes like "Not at this address, return to sender" and it never worked and then I got really frustrated and wrote "Dead" and it worked like a charm.

Also, the advertising flyers are supposed to come with a postcard or something that has your address on it. This card will have an address to write to in order to say you dont' want to receive them. The postmen are NOT supposed to deliver the flyers without this little postcard, and it is effective to write to the senders. Also, I am the one who gave the suggestion on a thread a long time ago about putting a recycling bin in front of the mailbox with a note on the mailbox saying "please put all flyers and junkmail in recycling bin." I couldn't belive how many people obliged!

thank you powder, like sofia my dd's have eczema ranging from mild to full body coverage, i have had people recoil from dd1 when she is at her worst. i was also asked if she had been burnt.

I also had bad eczema as a baby, which is why my mum had to potty train me as soon as she could cos nappies made my skin red raw. I still get cracked skin on my hands when the weather is bad. I also have asthma which causes me loads of grief.
Thanks for your nice posts.