I'm looking for some words of wisdom
so am posting here for traffic. I've tried to summarise as much as I can, without outing myself!
I'm a 10+year PQE solicitor, specialising in intellectual property litigation. I work for a small firm in the South East. I've had a lot of personal things going on over the last 3 years or so - to summarise, I had a very difficult pregnancy (where I developed a life-threatening condition) followed by a year's maternity leave. Shortly after I returned to work, my husband passed away very suddenly, so I had a period of compassionate leave. I returned to work but, admittedly, it took a while to get back up to speed. I met a new partner and am now 5 months pregnant - again, it's not been the easiest pregnancy. I am planning on taking a year's maternity again.
Several people, considerably more junior to me, have been promoted above me, over the last 2/3 years. I get it - I haven't been there - but it's still humiliating.
However, it's been made clear to me that while I have children, and I am not available 24/7, I will only be considered to be a part-time employee and will not be put on the bigger cases or given an opportunity to "prove myself", and can therefore forget about any promotion. I can't commit to the evening business development/networking opportunities or trips abroad that they want me to. I feel that my career has stagnated and I can't see a way out of it, at least here. I know I need to accept that my career has to take a backseat now I am a mum but it's hard! I also feel that I've been here for too long - 11 years - and am almost seen as part of the furniture. It's also a pretty sexist environment - the sort of place where blokes get slapped on the back and taken for a pint when they announce that their wife/partner is pregnant/has given birth, but the female solicitors are marginalised and ignored - all of my client-facing work has been taken away from me and I am currently "helping" with business development, which mostly entails editing documents prepared by more junior lawyers to help them get their names out there!!
Given the things that have happened in my life over the past few years, I know there are more important things but I'm finding it all very stressful at the moment.
Are there any other lawyers on here who have had a change of direction? What can I do?! I appreciate that I can't do anything right now given my pregnancy etc, but I want to start considering my options while I am on maternity leave. I've thought about opportunities for LexisNexis, PLC etc and PSL roles, but would appreciate any feedback or other suggestions - thanks in advance!! x