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to tell a child to not do something

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cjt110 · 11/07/2017 09:56

At a petting zoo/park type affair at the weekend. Notice a small child approx 5 years old quite upset being comforted by his parents. Hear Mum say that her son is scared of another, older child, who has his face painted like a monster/skeleton - approx 7 years old. Witness older skeleton child purposely seek out younger child twice. Younger child is upset and scared and runs for comfort from parents. Parents then leave the particular area.

Small child approx 3 years old, happily playing in area is then near skeleton child who makes scary monster like gutteral sounds and roars, loudly, at small child. Small child, who doesnt scare easily bursts into tears. Parent then goes to console small child and says to skeleton child "Well that wasn't very nice now was it" in a cross manner to skeleton child. Skeleton child replies "Well it's only paint" Parent then replies "And he's only a small child and you've scared him" and walks off comforting small child. Skeleton child's mother then moves across area and stands near skeleton child for a minutes after witnessing the above.

Was the second parent of small approx age 3 child out of order?

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cjt110 · 11/07/2017 11:01

Thanks Worra Smile

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SilkandSteel · 11/07/2017 11:11

Thank you. She stood there or a good few minutes with him. I assume she must have told him off because when we walked past to lave the area the boy said "I'm sorry for scaring him"

Why didn't you include this part in your opening post?

cjt110 · 11/07/2017 11:17

SilkandSteel Because I wasn't asking about that. I was asking if I had been unreasonable in telling the child off.

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Doubletroublemummy2 · 11/07/2017 11:21

Absolutley not. We are a society who live together with shared valued and all children need to learn that these extend beyond their own family. Parents can view this as interfereing if they want but also we can see it as having each others backs.

Because we are all so scared of pulling other peoples kids up on behaviour the kids think they are untouchable. I more of this sort of thing happened we would probably reduce many behaviour issues seen today. It helps to reinforce that mommies crazy rules are not something she made up but actually it's what we all expect, and you can't hide from all of us! :)

Doubletroublemummy2 · 11/07/2017 11:26

Also I don't think skeleton kids mom did anything wrong. He needs to bump heads with the world independently from time to time, rather than have a parent helicopter over him. It's just mucking in to raise a society.

cjt110 · 11/07/2017 11:43

Doubletroublemummy2 I agree with that

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