Just that, really.
I am recently single and have been reflecting on the last time I was single (2004!) and how much things have changed. While my social circle is probably bigger in that I interact with a greater range of people in some shape or form, I do really notice the lack of actual satisfying warm fuzzy conversations I have with friends this time around.
I realise that so many of my friendships are now conducted via messenger or other instant communication methods and many of my attempts to have 'real' conversations don't seem to work. Of course I see my friends in RL as well, but have really noticed a trend in recent times toward having online conversations rather than meeting in real life, which makes the RL catch up feel less pressing as the online chat has created the false illusion of having caught up. Times I do ring up friends it often catches them at a bad time, and to actually arrange a phone date seems to set the hares running in terms of making other people worry about what I want to talk to them about as it feels that you need a good reason to ring people now. Before, you'd just call for a chat.
I also have friends who seem happier to chat online than meet up which I never understand as the online conversations take up time also - sometimes as much time as actually meeting up!
I especially hate it as I get socially anxious at times and am good at reading actual conversations, but can leave online chats feeling a little more worried about friendships as rather than feeling an overall vibe am much more aware about who has started the conversation, who is asking more questions etc. Not to mention the stress of read receipts, or messaging someone and them not replying, or replying with one word responses that don't carry the conversation forward. Of course I get people are busy, but I miss the times when if someone was busy, they'd say 'can I call you back later?' and you'd talk at a later time.
Is this just me? Am I being terribly old fashioned? AIBU?
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YellowAardvark · 11/07/2017 09:20
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