in telling my sis shat she should of done when someone on the bus started taking pics of her 9month dd?

[juicychops]

A foreign woman was taking pics on her phone of my sister's dd. She didn't say anything as she was too embarrassed but a man caught my sister's attention and saw that my sister wasn't happy about it so he told the woman to stop.

I said to my sister if that was me i would of made sure she had deleted the photos off her phone and got the bus driver involved if she refused

When my Dadd worked in the YEmen his work colleagues used to borrow his photos of me and my (blond haired ) brothers to take home and show their families because they never swa blond haired people.
One wanted to buy yhe photos.
I am pretty sure it was all done in innocence.
We live in such suspicious times now.

Juicychops - yes you are being unreasonable, and irritating, unless your sis specifically asked what you would have done. And I don't see why the bus driver should get involved.
If sis had not wanted photos of her child taken, she could have covered or hidden her from the would-be papparazzo after the first snap.

Some of us may consider it rude to take pictures without consent of the subject, but Princess Di's tragic experience shows it is not illegal.

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I think its such a terrible shame to object to someone taking a picture of a cute babe or child

I bet at the same time you'd see nothing wrong in taking photos of children looking cute in places that are alien to you .... Africa, Asia, Russia, Far East, Middle East, European kids playing in town squares

What on earth are you worried about?

We had a crowd of Japanese tourists take photos of us as we came out of our wedding in the Town Hall in Florence ... it was interesting to them and personal to us ... and we found it amusing

I really regret not taking pictures last summer of my children with the kuna indians. The indians hate being seen as exhibits and only allow pictures if you pay and I didn't want to feel intruding but they have loads of albinos (blonde) and some of my children, particularly the younger blonde one was probably the first naturally blonde one they'd seen. We should have had a picture of him with some of them even if I'd paid.

Apparently you'll be paid up to £2000 if you take a picture of Prince William in public skiing with his girl friend on your camera phone. It's a very interesting issues as to what should be allowed and not.

What is this fear of children having their pictures taken?

I was listening to a discussion on jeremy Vine the other day, and apparently people are scared the pictures will end up on the internet.

And then what?

Am I totally naive, but I thought the pictures the Paedos want are rather less clothed than the average child on a bus or on a football pitch.

I think the fear is that paedos will doctor the images of children in some way.

But that could happen to any picture - and is it worth worrying about?

Unless it was used to stalk a child in some way, I cant see that it is worth worrying about.

If it was that much of a risk, wwe wouldnt have child models, no child would ever go on stage, and as for acting.....

Isn't it a courtesy thing rather than a being worried about paedophiles? People have different ideas about what is polite. It's just good manners to ask, I think.

I'd definitely ask if I could take someone's photo if I didn't know them and I'd think it rude if they didn't ask me too. Not that anyone would want to take my photo but maybe of DS.

I don't feel the issue is the picture taking so much - I would be delighted if someone thought mine beautiful enough to warrant a photo!
I think its the fact that she didn't ask. It is rude not to do so, but I accept that as a tourist she may not have realised that was expected of her.
Going back a few posts to F&Z's point, my DH and I travelled a few years back, and when you go to a culture that's very different to your own it is wonderful to take photos of the local people and their lives - it's interesting and not unforgivingly patronising at all .
But I would never have taken anyone's photo without asking first. Fortunately most people (especially the kids) were more than happy to oblige.

I would be upset if somebody didnt ask - but I keep hearing about people objecting to pictures being taken in schools etc, in case paedophiles get hold of the pictures.

it seems to be a common worry, some schools wont let parents take pictures at school plays etc.

I innocently took pictures of children when I was in India. Ive alway loved children and have worked as a nanny though now Im a mother myself I would object if someone hadn't asked me first. However I do object when people touch my baby in the supermarket for instance. I don't mind if they speak to him but worry their hands aren't clean! Neurotic or what!

I think the whole paedophile issue is this instance is really not an issue.
I saw a program last night on C4 where a senior police officer said that paedophiles are not interested in pictures of kids in a school play, or at the park, or babies on a bus. They want the kind of nasty images I don't really want to talk about.
It is something that has been massively overplayed by the media and got parents panicking.

Hippmummy, thats the point I was trying to make.

When my DN was 3, I went to Japan to look after him while my DS and DBIL were working (on tour with an orchestra). DS warned me that blond children atrract a LOT of attention, and people would regularly rush up and give me small presents for him. She had equipped me with small presents to give them back in return (normally packets of shortbread!)

I was also fascinated by the fact that DN was completely unfazed when approached by a very large dragon at a festival, where all the Japanese children screamed and cowered - obviously a different set of folk tales!

I always figured that they aren't going to stealing her soul, so a random woman taking photos of either my redhaired child or the one that looked just like Boo from Monsters Inc wasn't likely to be doing anything nefarious.

Totally normal in the Asian culture where we live for people to take photos of cute babies! Different cultures are… well, different. Best not to be aggressive and hostile.

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