Nearly 2 years ago my adult son split up from his DP ( no DC) and it was agreed that he would move in with DH ( not his DF) and me . We made it clear it was temporary and gave him a maximum of 6 months to stay. He paid no rent as he had considerable debts. At the end of 6 months he asked to stay longer as he still had substantial debts and after much discussion we said he could stay another year . By the end of that I was feeling he was taking advantage and really making little effort to move on so I told him that he had another 6 months and that was it. I also started taking a token amount ( £100 per month) which he was not happy with. Yesterday I asked how the flat hunting is going ( 6 months up end of August) and he flipped saying he couldn't believe I was " throwing him out". We ended up having a furious row ( not the first ) and DH weighed in saying he " wanted his house back " which is fair enough but DS says I am being totally U to expect him to magic up a flat despite having almost 2 years to do so.
This morning I had an email from a widowed DF in South of France inviting me to stay for 5 days at the end of August which I have accepted and now DH is telling me I am unreasonable as he needs a break too ! I pointed out that we were in Spain for 2 weeks last month and a City Break in March but apparently that doesn't count and I can't just bale out!
I am so wearied . I am taking anti depressants and tablets for HBP, still work 3 ( long) days a week and at 62 just want some peace and quiet.
AIBU to insist DS move out ? AIBU to spend a few days with a DF to recharge my batteries ? Finally I am looking after DGS10 from 10.00 today so WIBU to hand him my iPad and watch Wimbledon with a glass of Pimms ?