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To want to put a note thru my neighbours' door

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Paddlechick666 · 24/03/2007 08:00

saying "Thanks a feckin lot for the Oasis fest you enjoyed till 5am! Maybe you could be more considerate of your neighbour next time. And while we're about it could you and your girlfriend not have your rows at 6am and when you're not rowing could you ask your girlfriend not to squeal during sex!!!!"

To be fair, they didn't wake the baby but they did wake me and I have enough trouble sleeping as it is. Also the music/party thing doesn't happen that often, the rows are a bit more frequent tho.

You'd think victorian terraces would be a bit more noise proof.............

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littleducks · 24/03/2007 08:21

Start hoovering*, put washing machine on to spin and at 9/10 (so as not upset other neighbours) mow the lawn. Then secretly revel in the pleasure of revenge.

Or when you really reach the end of your tether engineer a row with your dh, he suggests you should be quieter you loudly proclaim that if you have to listen to the row/sex/oasis 'fests' they can listen to you.

*do you have a dyson, i hate the things but they are perfect for this as they emit a high pitch squeak which carries very well.

dingolimpet · 24/03/2007 08:24

I'd go round and make them aware you can hear everything, they're probably totally oblivious. I did it with my neighbours, i repeted some of the more sordid things i'd head them say very loudly in the street and they've been quiet since.

ludaloo · 24/03/2007 08:27

I was going to say the same thing as dingolimpet....I bet they don't realise how much you can hear!

SparklyGothKat · 24/03/2007 08:28

I was woken by someone squealing at 4am, pretty sure they were having sex. Thing is it didn't sound like it was coming from my neighbours house, I think it was someone down the road, they were loud!!

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Paddlechick666 · 24/03/2007 08:35

I do have a dyson actually! but not sure even the thought of revenge could encourage me to get it out this morning LOL.

i've got the washing machine on but the house layout means it's at the back a long way from their bedroom.

I did let dd yell a lot this morning and took her into my bed for a bit of noisy play first thing - about 6ish.

and spoke very loudly to her about how noisy it had been all night.

they surely must hear us as we can hear them. can't honestly believe they mustn't realise it's a two way wall!

dh actually sits on our bed and listens at the wall sometimes LOL.

apparently he heard the guy talking loudly in the middle night about how he was going to ditch the girlfriend. things were nice a quiet for a bit but unfortunately they seem to have reconciled.

the dyson idea is getting more appealing....

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powder28 · 24/03/2007 08:37

One of our neigbours got beaten up for telling the neigbours to turn their music down.
You have to return the favour by playing your music very loud etc. Although its difficult if you have a baby.
How about putting an amplifier next to the wall and turning up the base?

SparklyGothKat · 24/03/2007 08:43

Actually are you sure that its not my old neighbours?? they used to fight every weekend at 4am, or play music till 5am. Used to wake me and dd1 up everyone else managed to sleep through it. I was so glad when we moved

powder28 · 24/03/2007 08:49

Yes, just move house. The thing is if you get into serious arguments with your neighbours and then you want to sell your house it can complicate matters. If its not affecting your baby then just dont say anything. IN fact be very pleasant to them. YOu know what they say about keeping your enemies closer...

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Paddlechick666 · 24/03/2007 09:11

well, i will be moving later in the year. actually this house is rented and i had seriously wanted to buy it but circumstances have changed so now i'm looking to buy somewhere smaller for just me and dd.

we've just been upstairs to make the beds etc and played a very loud singing and clapping game!

he he he!

no way they couldn't have heard us.

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Jamantha · 24/03/2007 09:18

When i was a student, we had very loud and very late (to 6am) parties once a term. In fairness to us we did give the neighbours warning. In fairness to them they never complained, but just gave their darlings recorders at about 7am and let them get on with it! Fair play to them I thought.

kimiTheEasterBunny · 24/03/2007 09:34

I do feel sorry for you paddlechick, when we lved in Chiswick we were in a house that had been made in to 2 flats.
Most of the people that cae and went renting out the top flat were lovely but one couple were the neighbours from hell.
T.V blasting, he would get home at 3.00 pm and drum and bass would shake the house till she got in at 7.00 and they started rowing, F this and F that doors slamming, stuff being thrown.
In the end (we had the electric fuse boxes in our flat for both flats) I used to turn off ther power then pretend to be out.
They moved out in the end thank god but they had trashed the flat

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Paddlechick666 · 24/03/2007 10:00

pmsl kimi, good skills!

well, i just found a few more jobs to do and decided dd would love to hear her nursery rhymes very loudly this morning LOL.

unfortunately her bedroom wall is party to the house on the other side but I know that is their guest bedroom so no harm done.

it's 10am after all.

and i made sure I did a lot of calling from near our bedroom wall to dd.

i'm sure they can't have slept thru all that.

tbh, i really don't think it was a party. just him not even his g/f as there's been no screaming or squealing either. man but he's a bad singer as well!

mind you, my nursery rhyme singing is probably equally awful!

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twelveyeargap · 24/03/2007 10:17

Old houses can be funny for acoustics. We just moved our bed to the opposite end of our bedroom and now can no londer hear the dog next door barking, or the residents yelling to each other. It's quite odd, that moving the bed a few feet, made such a difference.

I suspect your neighbours have no idea that you can hear them - possibly because you've never said anything.

If it were me, (I've done this with a neighbour when we lived in a first floor flat - I was sick of her yelling at her son. I could hear every blardy word) I would wait til I saw them and then ask if they can hear noise from your house - it means they won't be on the back foot straight away. Then you can say that you're asking becuase you can hear a lot from their house and that maybe both of you can be a little more considerate of the hours you each keep. They keep the noise down at night, you do your best not to have the baby squealing in the room next to their bedroom early in the morning. Provided they can be reasonable, then a bit of give and take is fair.

If they tell you to eff off... Well, that's when you get the Dyson out IMO!

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