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To ask for this money back?

6 replies

Ramona87 · 10/07/2017 07:52

just looking for some opinions? I was supposed to go to hen do a week ago of a girl I don't know particularly well, she is more a friend of a friend.
A few days before I came down really sick with a vomiting virus and had to cancel. I felt awful cancelling last minute and wanted to make sure there minimal-no extra hassle or charge for anyone going/anyone who organised and booked things etc.
I was supposed to be sharing a room in a hotel with my friend (who doesn't know bride particularly well either) and when I mentioned I was too sick to come she said she couldn't afford the room by herself so wouldn't go, or would just go to the drinks etc and not stay in the hotel. I then got a message from the bride saying that she had decided to pay for my half of the room so that said friend could still stay over, and would I go halves with her? It was quite an expensive room so I was more than happy to do this, after all I'd cancelled last minute (albeit not my fault) and I thought this was fair enough. I transferred bride the money soon after our conversation.
I have since spoke with friend who said in the end another girl ended up staying in the room with her, and they paid the full half of the room the next morning, so I didn't owe bride anything as there was no need for her to pay anything in the end. Bride hasn't mentioned anything to me so just has this money I transferred to her which was for the room.
AIBU or cheeky to ask for this back? It's not a huuuge amount of money but not to happy with just giving it to bride for nothing? Or should I just let it go?

OP posts:
Charlie97 · 10/07/2017 07:56

Yes she should return, but when is the wedding? Is she in full on panic mode? Won't have thought about it?

Clutches straws!

Charlie97 · 10/07/2017 07:57

Yes, ask for it back!

Bright and breezy, really glad the room was booked so neither of us is out of pocket. My bank details are ..........

Ramona87 · 10/07/2017 07:58

Wedding is middle of September. There was also no cancellation fee on the room as I checked this.

OP posts:
Charlie97 · 10/07/2017 08:05

In that case nice text or email, not even suggesting it's an option.

Just great send monies to ....

darbyshaw · 10/07/2017 08:25

Yes ask for it back. Just send a light and friendly email request.

HipsterHunter · 10/07/2017 08:31

Of course, but she is prob just quite busy.

Send a text "Hi Bride, hope yo had a lovely weekend. so sorry I couldn't make it. you looked fab in the photos on FB! Friends says that another friend stayed in the hotel room with her and picked up the ohter half of the bill so you didn't end up having to pay anything towards it. Please can you transfer back the £[x] to my aa/c xxxxxx xx-xx-xx? Thanks, looking forward to the wedding!"

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