I know it's just life, and that's the way things are sometimes, but I'm just about at the end of my rope.
My DH and I bought our first house at the end of last year, we had to jump through a lot of hoops as he's self employed but we made it. We've rented together for a number of years and always split expenses fairly evenly over the years
Since we moved in (November 2016) I've paid for everything, mortgage,council tax, gas, electricity, phone, Christmas etc. I also had to take out a small personal loan to pay off some expenses that remained from the old house, which I'm paying every month.
Things were quite bad for him work wise over the winter period so I was able to cover all of it without worrying about it too much, but I'm becoming really resentful and I don't like myself that way.
We managed to arrange a holiday to my MIL's, which is for just over a week, combining the trip with some work for his Mum which he was to be paid for. We talked about it a lot before we left, and agreed that the work would take a couple of days, after which we'd get to do some holiday stuff.
Well we're now at the close of day 4 of the holiday and the work still has a fair amount to be done. I've cancelled a couple of trips that I wanted to make to help out and keep the peace in the house. I don't drive, and neither does his Mum, but she's happy to stay in the house and supervise so I've not really done anything for the last 4 days.
Tonight DH says that a particular museum which he wants to visit opens tomorrow at a particular time and we'd better make an early start to get there in a reasonable time(I'm not that fussy for going). I know I'm BU but everything's really built up to this point and I'm just about to lose it. Because it's something he wants, he can pause the job and just go?
I've given up so much (money, time, my damn holiday) and he doesn't get it.
Yup I know I'm being a drama queen but needed to vent. My apologies