If somebody who is super popular

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at least on Facebook but probably in rl too, who knows everyone and who is known by everyone, who is the soul of every party and super sociable...... doesn't seem to like you or even seems to really detest you, and you haven't exchanged more than a dozen words with this person...... what is it that makes them dislike you so strongly?

This person has gone out of her way to show that she won't speak to me, say hi when we bump into each other, and freeze me out when I happen to be talking to the same group as her whilst being super chatty with everyone else. Odd isn't it?

I know someone like this! Clearly cold towards me, ignoring / blanking me and very nice to others etc. It's a shame because my kid and hers get on really well. It is definitely her problem; her husband is always polite and friendly and just normal to everyone but every time she sees me it's like she's sucking a lemon!

I absolutely will not "try" with people like this, as clearly she is the one with the issue but sometimes I wonder what the problem is in her little head!

Maybe there is something about you that she just can't stand and it is just easier to avoid you than deal with it. One of the guys at my work in a Men's Rights Activist... I cannot stand that sort of bullshit. So I avoid him. If he tries to talk to me, I exit the room as quick as possible. He freaks me out.

People always come on to threads like this to say that the other person is jealous or threatened by you in some way. But I don't think that is always the case. Sometimes I dislike people because they are twats, or they are boring, or some such, nothing to do with being threatened. And I know someone at the moment who I suspect doesn't like me, despite them being super sociable etc with everyone else, whenever I speak it's like tumbleweed goes past. I suspect she thinks I am a twat, or boring or some such . I've met her 3 times now and have decided I have tried hard enough, and it's time to stop caring now.

"Sometimes two people don't gel well." yes but how would you know if you gel if you haven't ever spoken to the person?

"One of the guys at my work in a Men's Rights Activist... I cannot stand that sort of bullshit. So I avoid him." I wouldn't discuss my political views with people I don't know well. If someone had strong views on a topic and talked about these incessantly i'd keep my distance too. However, I try always to be polite to people even if I disagree with them or don't like them. In a way I have a need to be courteous to anyone and don't like to engage in any negative gossiping for example. That probably makes me boring to some. This person can definitely be rude and I have seen her swear at another parent on FB once.

"her husband is always polite and friendly and just normal to everyone but every time she sees me it's like she's sucking a lemon!"

So is hers! I once briefly chatted to her dh at a kids' party, a couple of years into knowing her and she run across the hall to interrupt us and pull him away. I am not kidding.

I once come across to someone as blowing very hot and cold before we talked and she discovered that I am deaf! This sounds unlikely in this case, but it's worth a thought.

OP - you could just have said something or done something she overheard and has taken a dislike to you. Or it could be you strongly resemble the girl who bullied her in school. Or you once dated someone she is now friends with and they've said you were a cow...

Could be a lot of things. Don't give her headspace because you'll probably never know unless she's told someone else who reports back to you. (and never trust someone who comes running to you with "I think you should know what XXX has been saying about you..." )

Be polite and nice and remember your DCs are at school to make friends, you are not. This period of your life when you are at the school gate and taking DCs to parties is really not that long. she's unlikely to be someone who is even on your radar in 5 years time.