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To not ask them to other occasions

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lily88 · 09/07/2017 12:50

We had our babies baptism yesterday. The week before my parents asked what the plans were. I told them that the church was was 1230 but to pop over around 11 for tea and sandwiches. My parents said that was fine and they'd see us then. My husbands parents and our babies godparents had arrived by 11:30 so at 11:45 I text my mum to see was everything ok and I got a reply saying on the way. They live half an hour away.
At 12:20 they still weren't there so but at that point we had to go or we'd be late. They arrived literally as we were putting the kids into the car. I asked them why they were so late and mum brushed it off like we're here now. After the service I wanted to get photos in the church of godparents and grandparents holding the baby but my dad had left to get the car. The same thing happened at my sons birthday they asked me what time the party was for and I told them 2-5 and they arrived over just as it was finishing up sat in another room when we did cake and sang happy birthday and then stayed for another few hours afterwards. Have I a right to be annoyed? I've established my parents don't like crowds of people but the only people going to the christening was myself and husband our children his parents and our babies godparents.

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ZippyCameBack · 09/07/2017 12:56

I think I'd invite them but not invest anything in them actually turning up. One day you may need to be able to tell your children truthfully that you always invited their grandparents, to avoid accusations of having kept them apart.
Their behaviour is awful and I'd be furious though and I do see how hard this must be for you.

lily88 · 09/07/2017 13:15

You're right zippy. Their behaviour is awful and they seem to treat everyone like that. It's already showing as ds loves spending time with my husbands family and doesn't interact too much with mine.

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LoveCakesandWine · 09/07/2017 13:17

Good advice from Zippy. Their behaviour sounds ofd, particularly special occasions like you've mentioned.

Do they make an effort with keeping in touch and day to day things?

Mumblebeebee · 09/07/2017 23:10

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