To bite his bloody head off?

[EmmaJR1]

Morning

We are taking our 2 month old swimming this morning and DH says "have you checked opening times, do you know where the new pool is? Do they close for lunch?

Well I bit his head off and told him to bloody check! I've already packed all the swimming stuff including his whilst he read - I also got DS ready and fed and got the nappy bag ready!

Was I so unreasonable? Did i overreact?

No! He's a grown up

Close for lunch? I've never heard of that!

Absolutely - for taking a 2-month old "swimming " (plunking them in filthy water y'mean)

Ours does down. Well, they close 1-2 for some reason.

Op yanbu. He is a grown up, he could have been doing that whilst you were busy

I mean... he was only asking. All you needed to say was "I've not had time to check, would you mind having a look?" I don't understand why people pick fights with their partners over the smallest things.

My info may be well out of date, but when my Dc were young, the standard medical advice vwas not to take them swimming until after they'd had all their injections ( about 16 weeks?). 2 months seems very young .

Yes, you overreacted, but I'm guessing you're slightly sleep deprived so I'll let you off!

A calm 'no, perhaps you could have done that while you've been sat on your backside for the last hour?' would have got the message across without causing an atmosphere.

Difficult without knowing more about the two of you. With just the information given, I think you did overact a smidgeon. Did you suggest going? If so, he may have expected you to be the one to do the checking. Was he asking these things so that if you hadn't checked, he would? I can understand you snapping a bit though as you were busy getting little one ready and he was reading. And of course, if he is usually a thoughtless dick, then of course you ANBU!

What was he reading that was so interesting though? I'm always looking for tips on a good book! Sorry, missing the point, have a virtual hug.

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My DS goes swimming with us both every Sunday, has done since 4 weeks, HV has said it's fine. We just chose a different pool today so don't know the set up. Our normal pool closes 12-1 for some reason.
He is very busy with a very stressful job Monday - Friday however I didn't get myself pregnant so I'm of the opinion we are partners and I'm not his PA. yes sleep deprived but now I've calmed down I think maybe I should have toned it down a notch, still think my point is valid though.

He came back downstairs 10 mins later with all the info and a sheepish smile so I think he got my drift...

@Cheekichi
It was a poxy book on diabetes he bought from a boot fair. He doesn't read fiction.

I'd recommend Behind Closed Doors by B A Paris.

You had a valid point which he clearly understood but perhaps you could have taken a deep breath through the stress. I know I don't always. Hope you enjoyed the swim ......

have you checked opening times,

No, have you?

do you know where the new pool is?

No, do you?

Do they close for lunch?

I don't know, do you?

Sounds like a bit of an overreaction. You could have just said that you didn't know and could he find out?

Swimming is fine at that age. They don't do much other than float and look confused though.

YANBU.

He's a grown man and should be able to preform simple tasks himself and not be expected to be molly coddled like he's another child of yours.

A book on diabetes? Well, it could have been worse I suppose... but I'm assuming it wasn't really riveting enough to stop him from helping you. Thanks for the book recommendation, I'll take a look on Amazon now. Have another virtual hug!