To wear THIS to a wedding?

[sallyhenderson]

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Friend says you should never wear a full length dress to a wedding as it competes with the bride and you will be mistaken for a bridesmaid!

I had never heard this rule.

Did you show your friend this dress? It's really nice and definitely not inappropriate imo.
Maybe she was jealous that you found a nice dress?

The dress is fine. People thinking any of their guests give a shit about their colour scheme, and that it is a subject which merits being kept secret, need to take a long look at themselves.

You can totally wear maxi dresses to a wedding.

I think it's fine and I'm paranoid about wedding guest outfits. I've worn a maxi dress to a wedding before. It's a lovely dress, OP, not at all bridesmaidy. Wear it.

My dd is getting married in Aug. Lots of people have asked what the colour scheme is and we have told them.
Its a really coommin question to ask when someone starts taking about their wedding. I'm 51 and never been told "it's a secret"

*common

I've also never known a bride to be upset or annoyed at any of her guest's choice of outfits. If they happen to wear a dress that matches the bridesmaids it has always been greeted with 'lovely colour! Great minds think alike' etc

My SIL wore a pure white maxi dress to my wedding. I had no idea I was meant to be outraged and offended by it until years later when I read it on mumsnet. No one commented on it at the time.

Plenty of bridesmaids aren't in full length dresses these days. And often are in high street dresses rather than 'bridesmaids' dresses. So there's always a chance you'll match, whatever you wear. But you won't have bridesmaid hair/accessories/shoes/be walking down the aisle, so it's fine.

People thinking any of their guests give a shit about their colour scheme, and that it is a subject which merits being kept secret, need to take a long look at themselves

I actually agree with this but it has been my experience that everyone else gets very worked up about it. At my own wedding (very many years ago) I didn't do the whole secret thing because I didn't give a crap about weddings. But other people were telling me 'No, you can't tell anyone, that's not the done thing'. I wondered if it was maybe a superstition or something?

It's lovely.

That style dress is perfect for a wedding, providing it has some kind of pattern IMO. If the same dress was a plain pastel colour, I do think it would look a bit bridesmaid-y.

The last few weddings I've been to have had a 'secret' colour scheme where the brides not wanted to say what colour the bms are in

For that reason I always wear a patterned dress to a wedding just in case I got the same colour.

It's a beautiful dress.

I told everyone the colour scheme for my wedding and someone still turned up in the same colour as the bridesmaids! She'd forgotten and was completely mortified but I just thought it was funny.

Colour scheme has been top secret at every wedding I've ever been to

On the rare occasions I've asked I've been told the colour scheme - just ask.

Alternatively ask a local florist - they will tell you this year's bridesmaid colours. Former DSiL in the business reckons to guess which colour a bride has chosen within 30s of her walking through the door.

A friend made her soon to be DH wear a different tie to greet guests at the church before slipping out and putting on one to match the colour scheme just before she arrived.

No one noticed. 😀

It's lovely. My bridesmaids will be in grey but yours is patterned.

It's great, do it.

I once wore a lovely maxi in royal blue only to discover on the day it was the exact colour of the bridesmaids. I laughed it off. I have no idea if anyone else noticed.

I've never heard that you're not allowed to wear a long dress to a wedding and I know about the not wearing white or black etiquette.
It's a really nice dress and I'm sure it will be lovely.

I've been to quite a few weddings and have never felt the need to ask what colour dress the BMs will be wearing, can't see that its an issue at all.

My mother went to my brother's wedding in a dress that almost exactly matched the bridesmaids.

She did that on purpose though.

I personally think it's completely suitable for a wedding. Absolutely beautiful dress, I might have to treat myself to it too

Maxi dresses are very normal now. Not bridesmaidesque -go for it.

That's really lovely, and nothing like a bridal gown.
You'll look and feel beautiful.
Definitely wear it. 😄

It's lovely - it's summery and pretty and what difference does the colour scheme make - I wouldn't consider that, I'd just wear it

It's a really lovely dress, and very now.
I think before maxi dressed became a summer norm, and were just formal wear this may have been an issue, but no longer.

Wear it, it's beautiful.

There is a few rules, and unless the dress has a train there isn't a limit regarding the too long comment from your friend. There is a too short rule though, Love the dress btw, looks perfect!!

Very pretty, definitely perfect for a wedding.