For being a bit miffed that Dd2's friends mum dropped her home and then stayed for 2 hours ??

[NuttyMuffins]

Ok I probably am being a bit unreasonable as she had had dd2 at hers for tea, but now i am sitting in a wrecked living room, all the kids rooms are like bomb sites and i'm only just eating my tea.

She came to bring dd2 home and said 'we'll only stay for 10 minutes'. I made her a cuppa and we had a chat and then 2 hours later she eventually decides to go.

I just wouldn't do that, i'd stay half an hour at the most and then go.

I know I moan at having no friends sometimes, but it's getting to the point where I wish I could avoid her. She asks me every single morning what I am going to be doing that day, and if I don't think quickly then she either invites me to hers for coffee or invites herself to mine and yeah occasionally it is nice, and I don't mind her coming here either occasionally, but not all the time.

Anyway, rant over.

I hate people comming to my house, wouldn't like it this late, during the day yes but not for that long.

couldn't you have said 'right, must run the bath now'?

Oooh, that's a bit OTT really - stopping you eating (and presumably thekids going to bed) until this time? Don't blame you for being miffed.

I guess she is someone that you don't particularly "click" with then, Nutty?

I did mention bath time, and the fact that I hadn't eaten yet.

Don't get me wrong she is a nice person, a bit loud but nice and it is really nice to have someone to have a coffee with a couple of times a week, but sometimes I want to just come home and do nothing and have the day to potter.

As for tonight it's just annoyed me a bit as she'd given me the impression earlier that her youngest ds goes to bed at 7 regardless of the day and so I really thought she wouldn't stay long.

Tbh i think everyone thinks we must be great mates because we are both single mums, but our parenting styles are a bit different and so I am finding it a bit hard going.

And her eldest ds now wants to come again another day, and he can according to his mum, nevermind asking me.

Some people you really cant shake off, they just don't get the hint no matter how many times you drop it.

I have a girl from down the road & ever time I come home she lets herself into my house whilst getting my shopping in etc. Drives me mad. The other day I swore at her to leave me alone not really me at all usually very polite but a bit like a volcano I simmer quietly until BOOOM!

Thing is with me, I am too polite and hate to tell people to back off a bit as i really don't want to offend them.

It's hard as my dd2 and her Ds1 are in the same class at school, and her ds2 and my ds are in the same nursery so we see each other every day.

What did she say hillary?

she might have wanted the company
I know sometimes I spend a lot of time at my neighbours house and would be mortified if I thought I was outstaying my welcome, I would expect her to tell me that she had somethings to do, and she did not have time to stop.

You could be right lillymolly, and I know how it feels to want some company, but it's still just not something I would do, especially around bedtime.

Nothing she just looked at me and walked out feel a bit bad now tbh but had to be done. She keeps asking if my dd1's comming out to play (my dds only 3 and its on a road, plus the girls 15![hmm)

She sounds lonely to me!, try and organise a coffee morning with a couple of other Mums so maybe she may "latch" on to them!!

im with you nutty. had one like this who would knock my door, id open it to be presented with a coffee she'd made, couldnt exactly say sod off. she ended up being here almost 24/7. a friend is nice, but there's too much!!

and dont worry at the moaning at no friends thing, there's a difference between friend and nuisance. this girl i spoke about was all or nothing. if i didnt have her here ALL the time she looked so hurt, if i tried to limit the visits a little bit she'd get stroppy and fall out with me. good bloody riddance i say.

and btw, email me woman. i didnt cat you for nothing

When did u CAT me ???

ages ago nutty, you have my email address!

Oh yes i see what u mean now, sorry brain is on a go slow tonight.

Let me check I still have it, my brother emptied my inbox when he set my computer back up and i'm not sure i'd saved the addy.

I agree that she does sound lonely. It's difficult. I know another mum (hardly see her now) who when she picked up her kids would stay for ages and ages gassing. The house got more and more trashed. All I can suggest is that you are firmer with her and tell her that you have to get on with stuff.

Oh i am crap at being firm with people.

I found it nightowl , will email you .

how VERY dare you! lol

cross posted, am crapness in mucho

I knew someone like this, it got to the point where I answered the door with my coat on and said I was just off out she was nice but I didnt want her round all the time and I tried a few times nicely to say so but couldnt be firm. It worked