I'd rather not live near only one set of grand-parents

[tilda0]

We live abroad (his country) and I found out that I am pregnant. We used to live in a third country (not his, not mine). I am a little obsessed over the fact that we are now closer to his family. Milf can be sometimes judgmental and have principles. I fear having my kid seeing her more than my mum who is -objectively- awesome and the best grandma to my nephews. My parents are 3 hours flight away.
Sometimes I'd rather move back to that third country (which is UK and we are europeans, not sure it's a good idea) than having only his parents. Obviously, my language will be the second language..which freaks me out a bit.
Aibu?
Will I enjoy having milf around even if we don't click?

Hi Tilda. Yes, I go out in the evenings with friends sometimes and my husband stays at home with the baby. Of course I also "let" him do the same. At weekends we often go to friends' houses with the baby, or they come to us; occasionally we meet friends out for lunch or a day out, with the baby. We go on the tube, trains and buses even though we have a car.

During the week I go to lots of baby classes and have lunches and coffees with other local Mums. Now and again (maybe only once every 6 weeks or so) we get a babysitter from an agency and DH and I go out together, though we didn't feel comfortable doing that until he was about 8 months old. Most if our friends do also have children though, so it might be a bit different if you are first in your social group to have them.

Tilda if you are missing sharing your pregnancy with friends then you might enjoy one of the Mumsnet due date groups on the "Ante Natal Clubs" board- just look for the one with your due month in it. It's nice to be able to chat with others in the same position. Some of my Mumsnet due date group migrated to Facebook (a closed group) and is still going strong now, we share photos and chat and many of us have met up in real life.

Thanks for your last messages @JessieMcJessie
Your social routine seems great!
I'm gonna look at Ante Natal Club. It's a bit sad for me to not have a friend around to meet up for a coffee and share life stories (if not pregnancy stories).
Thanks for tips

To go back to the grand-ma story...My DHs mum seems sweet but acts odd. For example she will happily pay a meal at the restaurant but she is not keen on borrowing her flat near a beach or country house. She sets rules. It doesn't make me feel comfortable for the future. I don't see why DH thinks that she is going to be a great help with the kid. I believe that she will set her rules.