To be upset at DPs comments

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Was having a nice relax bath and dp shouted up to me that the bath was leaking water downstairs so I got out and went down to look. He stated also the wash machine is leaking so he is not in a really bad mood because he's fed up with this house in general.

He decides to ignore it all and goes out to clean his car out the back knowing dd will cry her eyes out if he goes without taking her so he says no dd stay in the back garden. Dc then crys like mad in the garden and he closes the door then decides to come back into he garden but opening the gate it tips her back and she screams more. (All the neighbours are in their own gardens trying to relax)

So I said bring her in she's crying. He then turned round to me 'get off your fat hole and get her yourself'

That's the first time he's Said im fat even though I know I am I'm really upset.

He's repulsive. Leave him. It's the only chance you and your dd have of having a decent life.

What a wanker. Do you really want to share your one life with that?

He's being a wanker. Call him on it!

We all have bad days/weeks etc but you talk it over with your loved ones, not take it out on them.

He's horrible. Horrible to his kid and horrible to you.

How utterly vile. Sorry OP.

Calling you fat is one thing. Calling you fat as an insult is totally not okay ever, no matter what mood he's in.

He sounds like a right bastard OP.

How long has he been talking to you like this?

Neither of you come out looking great in this situation. Why didn't you get your Dd in knowing she was going to cry?

Is he always like this?

Does he normally speak to you like that op?

He sounds like a dick. My dp will make a bad situation worse deliberately too, he would do something like flouncing off to the front leaving either me or the dc to react in a way that he can react to.
It's super fucking cuntish.

He was rude.
I don't get why the bath was relevant though. Or why you couldn't deal with the crying child.

Obviously the name calling is horrible too, but I would be more pissed off that he got me out of the bath to help with an incident, then fucked off to do a non urgent job leaving me to deal with an upset child and the leak.

Kick him in his fat hole!

I'm not condoning what he said because it was a dick move but just a few things.

How old is our DD? Why would she be crying her eyes out over your DH going to clean the car?

If she was crying her eyes out the whole time why didn't you go out and get her?

Is there something else going on? Sounds like a massive over reaction from your DH.

Have you called a plumber?

Dd is 3 and is a bit clingy to dp at the moment as he isn't long home from working abroad and she really missed him. He wanted to clean the cars but dd always try's to run away in the car park area and it's not safe. But he stormed out because he was annoyed at the leaks so she just seen him go out fast and started crying.

She was standing at the back gate and started to cry and he immediately came back in it all happened in a matter of seconds and he was right beside her as I was in the house with no shoes on so I said get bring her in.

He did apologise after and brought me wine so he's forgiven

He sounds charming OP.

I'd pull him on it, so you really want your DD growing up thinking that's how you should be spoken too?

Oh good he said sorry :) hes a keeper isnt he ;)