Aggressive drivers - woo was BU?

[mummyrabbitpeppapig]

In my local Sainsbury's car park earlier waiting to exit. ( 4th in line of four cars ). Woman in 4x4 comes out of a row of cars and proceeds to push in ( at one point I thought she was going to hit me tbh. ). Now I don't mind looking up, catching someone's eye and waving / nodding / flashing them out in front of me, but I will NOT be pushed. We ( toddler and I )pulled up at traffic lights and driver would form her window asked what my problem was and called me a sad bastard!

Wound down ( not would form!)

Both of you were BU and aggressive.

Oh I hate this too. I'm the nicest driver in the world in terms of letting people out, but if I see people deliberately trying to bully their way in, I will deliberately not let them in

She would not have got in front of me. I do not tolerate people who push in. I would have told her to learn to drive and my problem was her.

Let dickhead in her bus go. Life is too short.

Aggressive drivers can kill - hopefully just themselves. Don't be one.

Hate this with a passion. I'm forever letting cars go, and I'm very patient with other drivers. That being said if some idiot is edging out of a junction, and essentially blocking half the road, I will go around them (if safe). It's not ok to think you can bully your way out. These are the kind of people who cause accidents, by being so inconsiderate and impatient, and I refuse to encourage it.

jumping jellybeanz in what way was I BU please?

OMG just realised title says woo was BU instead of 'WHO'. ( EPIC FAIL )

Jellybeanz, exactly how was OP being aggressive?

You werent being unreasonable.

She was being entitled no doubtshe could have driven another way and joined the back of the queue.

Shes the one with the problem, Ive come to the conclusion that people who drive like this are either drinking, sniffing something or just generally arseholes.

Dont give it headspace

We obviously need a diagram here op...

She was more important because she had a big 4x4. That automatically entitles her to what she wants.

I dont see how you were being aggressive

Other driver was being a plonker and compounded her plonkerness by being even more of a plonker

If you see what i mean

Dh was called a twat in a super market carpark the other day

When he wasnt ,unusually for him, being a twat

She was more important because she had a big 4x4. That automatically entitles her to what she wants

Yes this. You were being massively unreasonable.

(please read with a huge dose of irony) :)

Mulledwine1

I think she was, and you're under no obligation to let someone in from a more minor "road". She ought to have waited and started the whole thing and was rude, so swbu.

Woo was def BU.

So you let her in?

I do wonder if these people really would risk damaging cars?

She was unreasonable.

It's nice to let people in, but you had right of way and chose to maintain it, and you did post if she'd held back and done the 'please, please' look at you you'd have let her in.

I had similar last week. I had right of way and there was a car just stopped in the middle of two lanes. He didn't have his indicator on so I wasn't sure which lane he wanted to go to. Suddenly I get an 'Oi' so I realized he wanted my lane and smiled and let him in. I got a 'wake up!!!' as a thank you.

Some people are jerks and their lives are more unpleasant and complicated because of it.

YABU

The roads are full of selfish, entitled tossers, I think their driving style is a sad indication of their personality.

But as annoying as they are, it's not your job to make a stand which puts you at risk.

There are already too many road rage incidents because of bullies on the road, don't risk becoming a victim in front of your child. It's just not worth it, you won't change them by either antagonising them or allowing them in. They will still be a tosser at the end of the day.

And don't think insurance would pay out of they did bump you. Yes they would be in the wrong but if you did nothing to mitigate the situation and avoid such a collision you would be deemed to have contributed to it.

I do wonder if these people really would risk damaging cars?
I remember when I was a learner, my parents telling me that the aggressive arseholes also tend to be very fond of their cars (their car is their ego), so unlikely. I think those most likely to deliberately damage cars would be the "crash for cash" scammers, but they wouldn't want to draw attention to themselves.

As for letting aggressive arseholes go first: if I've got my "play it safe" hat on, then yes I would let them out: far safer to have someone aggressive ahead of you rather than behind (bonus points if they're later stopped at the side of the road by a police officer). But if I'm feeling bloody-minded, then I would refuse to let them out, and then be prepared for the inevitable tailgating while I drive at 2mph below the speed limit. It also depends on the area; in a rough area I would not want to be hunted down by an aggressive driver.

I think sometimes you have to be a little forceful To get out at busy junctions, or you will be sat there all day waiting for someone to take pity on you. I'm talking nudging out a little to make your intentions clear, not effing and blinding and generally being abusive.

I don't think the women in question is right to insult you, , but I equally find drivers who sit there politely waiting for a letter from the queen before they will pull out quite irritating too, not only when I'm sat behind them, but when I'm letting them out and they're dithering at the junction.

If you'd seen the things I've seen you would never get into this kind of "contest". People fighting over whether someone can get into a lane can and do kill, sometimes even it is far from a motorway and they are hardly moving.

I have noticed that a lot of cars tend to back off in the face ofa 4X4 and I suspect that that may breed a sense of superiority.

When I had a normal sized car I would often get cut up, especially on a couple of roads locally where two lanes merge into one. You often get assholes screaming past traffic trying to merge sensibly and then force their way in at the last second. Since I have got a 4x4, that hasnt happened at all, probably because they know that their car would come of worse in a collision. So I would imagine that it would be easy to end up with a Billy Big Bollocks, King of Road attitude after a while.