Not sure why i feel off about this.

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Ill try to keep this short

Dp and me have been together 3 years. He has recently moved country and we are looking at joing him in a year or so (not sure if this is relevant but ill put it in)

We talk alot on the phone and id mentioned iv wanted to take up running.. but need to buy a good bra. Im very overweight so i need to do something about it.
Any when we was talking he asked how the running was going and insaid not very well beed tonget that bra. He asked my bra size and said hed order me one to be delivered to mine.
He has never once put me down or mentioned my weight allways complenting me . If any thing he has given me confidence to wear leggings where before him inwouldnt. I thank him.

But it feels like a dig or that he saying hurry up and lose that weight.
Am i being over sensitive? Why do i feel funny about it?

I think YABU. You mentioned you needed a bra, he offered to buy you one. IMHO he's being supportive.

Eh? I'm confused. All he has done is ask how the running is going, you say you need a new sports bra so he offered to buy you one. How are you seeing that as a dig? YABU.

If he's never commented on your weight or made negative comments, I'd take it for what it is. He's trying to be supportive.

I think it is your insecurities at play here.

He offered to do a nice thing.

He's just trying to support you.

I think your right he is being supportive .. i just dont understand why i felt funny about it.

I thanked him and said it was nice offer so iv not caused an argument or anything.

Maybe i am being over sensitive just just because of my own insecurities.

Perhaps he knows your weight bothers you?

I certainly wouldn't mind if my dh lost a few pounds and I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I did too!!

Don't project your insecurities onto him

Don't read too much into it, he is not there to support you so he is offering to supply something that will help you out... heck, try and get some new trainers out of it too :)

OH is being kind and supportive (excuse the pun).

Btw, I'm bountiful of nork and I wear two different design bras, one over the other, for running, and that way nothing moves. For me it's a confidence thing.

He sounds very supportive which is lovely. Its easy to be defensive when trying something new so take him at face value. Congratulations on starting running - I've recently started the Couch to 5k and finding it really hard but rewarding.

I got the Enell sports bra - they're quite expensive but I'm large chested and my ladies don't move a bit when I'm jogging!

It must be my insecurities.

Thank you for bra recomantions. Ill try a few on.im just starting of with jogging then walking then jogging and hoping to up it. Im soo unfit its unrea