To think she was being patronising?

[RebelRogue]

Colleague today made a joke, I knew it was a joke and i replied in kind but I guess my reply could've been seen as defensive/taking it serious.
So she kept saying it was a joke,and how i would take it seriously if I didn't know her. I wasn't upset,laughed with her and said "I know" basically not making a big deal. She kept going and going,now apologising and how she feels bad and dragging another colleague into it. I got on with my work,saying it's fine and finally it got dropped.
Another colleague comes in and she starts retelling the story and how it was just a joke and going on and on again.
At that point I made my excuses and left the room before i shouted "I'm not stupid you patronising twat!"

So AIBU to feel the way she went on and on(over something that was no way a big deal) was patronising and in no way meant to "make me feel better"?

You actually shouted that at her? At work? Or after you left the room? (Quietly? Silently?)

I think she left before it reached the point of her shouting. If she'd stayed she would have shouted.

Is that right OP?

I think Rebel left the room in order to not do shouting.

YANBU, OP.

She means she left the room to avoid shouting at her.

It's very difficult to know whether you're BU on such little detail.

Maybe a bit U but I can see how it might have been annoying. Maybe she thought she'd gone too far with the joke and she was trying to make herself feel better by retelling the story rather than patronising you.
Does she have previous for being patronising?

If she brings it up just say 'I know it was a joke, but it wasn't funny, it's no big deal, I have a dryer sense of humour than you' or something like that. It obviously wasn't that funny and she feels a bit put out that you didn't think she was hilarious. Take it as a compliment that she wants your approval (maybe... I dunno)

Ah ok, re-read it and understand now! well yes your colleague was being annoying, YANBU

By your replies I can see why she thought you were upset. One worded answers etc.

@Louiselouie0890 I'm quite quiet anyways, I was doing work and laughed along with her until i got bored with her insistence it was just a joke. Then I got annoyed because she wouldn't drop it. Then I left the room(shouting stuff in my head).

Does she have previous for being patronising?

We don't really interact that much.
There was another episode when she discussed my two toned hair and recommended me a "good hairstylist cheap" that does her hair and I just told her "thanks ,but I actually wanted my hair like that". That incident was actually funny. Well her face was.

YANBU OP and the strangest thing here is that I have just been in tears to DH about a similar situation where I work today! Am 21 weeks pregnant so maybe my hormones are playing up though!
Worked at my place for 10 years since early 20s and was spoken to and treated like a child by a much old workforce for a long time (I was youngest by far)
Worked my arse off in that place to prove myself and have done very well there.
New member of staff started last week - girl in mid 20s and older colleague on her department (who is very ageist and says she doesn't like working with people younger than her son who is 30 - she is 50) is desperately lording it over her even though she isn't her superior... She does this by making other people look inferior.... made a comment to me in front of whole office of how she is 'done parenting thanks' when I asked her for assistance with something! Fucking fed up of being an easy target!
Sorry for hijacking your thread

Wow @ethelfleda that is bad,no wonder you are upset.