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To think our landlord should apologise

22 replies

HoneyIshrunktheBiscuit · 06/07/2017 15:47

On Monday dp got a frantic call from our landlord stating this months rent payment has not gone in to his account. This has never happened before in two years of living in the property and so dp checked our account and it showed the direct debit had gone through as normal. He told the landlord this.

Landlord was very insistent that we needed to call the bank and ask if the payment had gone through even though it showed on the statement it had. He rang us again on Tuesday demanding we contacted the bank. We did and they said what we expected 'payment has been taken out probably just taking a little longer than usual to clear please allow 48 hours'.

Again Wednesday landlord rang with 'this money needs to be in my account now or I will be overdrawn' at this point we were getting very annoyed as a) not my problem if he's overdrawn and b) there's not much we can do if money has been taken out the account.

Pestered us all day with different numbers to ring whilst we were both working and trying to do our jobs. Eventually it turns out money had gone in his account last Saturday he'd just missed it on the statement and was overdrawn anyway regardless of our rent. Since then we've heard nothing - no apology, no 'my bad' not even a thanks for harassing the bank.

Aibu to think that's not how you treat loyal tenants of two years who've never caused you issues.

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Wolfiefan · 06/07/2017 15:49

If he's so skint that he is overdrawn after your rent goes in (and so much so that he didn't notice the rent payment) I'm guessing he will be selling the place soon. Time to move?

NellieFiveBellies · 06/07/2017 15:49

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HoneyIshrunktheBiscuit · 06/07/2017 15:50

We're in the process of buying a house (we have a mortgage in principal so are currently viewing properties).

I doubt he will sell though it's a tiny converted flat and his siblings own the rest of the building. I doubt he'd be able to sell it.

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HoneyIshrunktheBiscuit · 06/07/2017 15:51

He may try upping our rent though

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Aquamarine1029 · 06/07/2017 15:52

I would have words with him, absolutely. I would tell him I don't appreciate being accused of not paying rent when it was his own carelessness and irresponsible behaviour that led him to be overdrawn. I admit that I do not take being called a liar well AT ALL.

DeleteOrDecay · 06/07/2017 15:54

YANBU, the least he could do is apologise for harassing you like that and you're right, him being overdrawn isn't your problem and he had no right to try and make it into your problem.

I hope you manage to find a suitable property soon.

OlennasWimple · 06/07/2017 16:01

No, it's not on, it's rude and unacceptable.

However, how are you going to raise the issue of wanting an apology without yourself seeming petty? Sometimes it's better in the long run to chalk things up to experience, put them to one side and move on.

Glumglowworm · 06/07/2017 16:07

He should absolutely apologise

Unfortunately you would seem petty to insist that he does, even though he should.

I would put your energy into finding your new home and getting out of this flat as fast as you can.

HipsterHunter · 06/07/2017 16:09

I would put your energy into finding your new home and getting out of this flat as fast as you can.

100%

hopefully you can hand your notice in at a really crap time to get new tenants, and be obstructive about viewings :-)

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 06/07/2017 16:11

YABU - that's exactly the sort of behaviour I'd expect from a landlord to his loyal tenant, sadly.

BewareOfDragons · 06/07/2017 16:13

I'd let it go, as he clearly has his own problems, and intensify my search to find a property to buy. Good luck!

HoneyIshrunktheBiscuit · 06/07/2017 16:19

All my efforts will definitely be on finding a new house!

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lifeisntallhaha · 06/07/2017 16:27

He's a pillock and clearly sailing close to the wind with his finances. He should apologise but probably won't. Do you ever see him in person?
However, I don't think I'd be sending terse texts...just (cue Taylor Swift) ....shake it off, shake it off.

HoneyIshrunktheBiscuit · 06/07/2017 16:33

We've been here two years and never seen him face to face

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Changebagsandgladrags · 06/07/2017 16:34

This happened to me from the other side. We're renting out our property and we rent here. There's an 11 day difference between rent money coming in and going out.

One month it didn't come in, we pay an EA to collect our rent. So agent said tenant hadn't paid. I frantically emailed them, they panicked because they had paid by DD as normal. Fecking EA had the money all the time.

So, I can see why the LL might be a bit panicky, but should have apologised for the mix-up.

HipsterHunter · 06/07/2017 16:38

I can see why the LL might be a bit panicky

If non payment of rent for a few months leaves you financially stressed you can't afford to be a LL.

DeleteOrDecay · 06/07/2017 16:40

Thing is the money was in his account, he just didn't check his statement properly.

He was panicked because of his own carelessness rather than there being crossed wires like in your situation Change.

Changebagsandgladrags · 06/07/2017 16:41

Well we couldn't afford one month of non-payment. But then we didn't set out to be LLs, we moved for a temporary work change, but now it's a permanent change.

Changebagsandgladrags · 06/07/2017 16:42

Yes, he bloody should apologise. I meant to say.

bigmac4me · 06/07/2017 16:54

If non payment of rent for a few months leaves you financially stressed you can't afford to be a LL

HipsterHunter Oh dear, then should I not be a landlord either. I rent out a property owned by the mum. She is terminally ill with stage 4 kidney failure and end stage dementia. She, or rather I as her power of attorney, rent out her property and the tenant's rent goes into my account and within a day or so goes directly to her care home to pay her fees. I or she now have no savings because of paying the bulk of her fees ourselves (no help or benefits as she has the property) and so it is vital we receive the tenant's rent on time. We had tenants who were a day or too late each month, generally extending it by another few days each month, and could not understand the urgency that we needed it as like many posters they assumed all landlords are made of money. So although I hope I would be polite about it, and certainly would apologise if I was wrong, any late payment of rent makes me very anxious as I am at risk of not being able to pay the care home fees on time. So yes, even one month would leave me finanically stressed...and I guess I should not be a landlord.

Sorry for hijacking your thread OP but I become upset that most people (not you) assume landlords are just moneygrabbing bastards. We're not.

KinkyAfro · 06/07/2017 17:13

Totally agree with bigmac, a lot of landlords rely on the rent to pay the mortage too, as mine does.

Agree that the LL in question was a dick though, he should've checked his bank account first

KinkyAfro · 06/07/2017 17:13

Totally agree with bigmac, a lot of landlords rely on the rent to pay the mortage too, as mine does.

Agree that the LL in question was a dick though, he should've checked his bank account first

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