Rant Rant Rant !

[amberlabamba]

I've posted on here before but really need a rant!
Very short story is: I married 5.5 years ago, MIL bought a house with us and the agreement was that her house would be done straight away and many promises were made. I am now in a situation which means that due to DH not working for 3 years (and spending all his mother's money in the process) and him not listening to any of my concerns/worries/ desires I am living elsewhere.
I love him and I have tried tirelessly to have these important conversations that are really make or break. Every time I get faced with folded arms and an inability to listen. Two weeks ago we had a conversation and in the middle of me talking he looked at his watch and said, ' this will take weeks to discuss, it's late' - then he promptly l left! no communication since then and when I tried to contact him the response is ' send me an e-mail'!
I have sent this e-mail (48 hours ago now) and have had no reply!
GRRRRR Rant over!

Oh - and nothing at all has been done to sort his mother's house out - so she has lived with us for 85% of the time we've been married!

I am now in a situation which means that due to DH not working for 3 years (and spending all his mother's money in the process) and him not listening to any of my concerns/worries/ desires I am living elsewhere.

I honestly think you can do better.

Ugh! Divorce this waste of oxygen.

He doesn't sound like he loves YOU at all. Run away. Loving someone is not enough.

You've posted on here before about this haven't you? I would LTB and that's probably the first time I've written that

Relationship is over and not worth saving. Move on.

You've posted on here before about this haven't you? - Yes I have.

Run away.
I would LTB and that's probably the first time I've written that
Relationship is over and not worth saving. Move on.

DONE! :)

Well done op

You are better off out of the marriage, leave them to it.

Yip, well done amber.

MIL bought a house with us

This should never have happened.

Its you or her now

Sorry amber, but your marriage is over and has been for some time. Divorce is really your only option.

I'm so glad you left - you seemed so stuck last time, and he hasn't got the slightest intention of leaving his mother for another woman (!), from what I can remember of your thread.

Do you have equity of your own sunk in the house? Have you started divorce proceedings to force him to sell it to release your equity?

There is probably some equity just from rising house prices and the work we did to it.
I will be moving forward with divorce proceedings shortly and have already asked if they want to buy me out or sell the property. (6 days ago with no reply!)

Well done Amber. You're waaaay better off out of this mess.

I'm sure there are lots of knowledgeable people here who can help with the divorce stuff too. Hope all goes well. (And of course come and rant here any time you like!)

Hugs to you, OP. This is the hard bit. Stay strong. You have more happiness in front than you do behind you.

Thank you all so much. I know that you're right - it just took a while to believe it. Onwards and upwards :)

Congratulations. Your soon to be exhusband sounds like he has mummy issues. I think you are much better out of it!

OK - so tried to communicate with him... apparently he wants me to e-mail now. I sent an e-mail and the results are, quite frankly, shocking :(

I imagine they will try to tie you up in knots and delays in the hope you'll walk away from yiur equity.

You need a shark of a lawyer.