Mad as bell.

[Jemmy360]

I need to know if I'm too close to the situation and I'm being over the top. Have posted about both my parents and in laws before. Long story short we are lower contact with both sides. Due to DH working away this week mil and fil picked children up from school and walked to ours and waited for 30 mins for me to get in from particularly horrific day at work including nasty aspects of child safeguarding. I only include this info because I realise it colours my perceptions of things.
I come in. Offer pil a cuppa. There is no milk, DH and I don't drink milk, only keep it for kids. I ask eldest son (11) to walk 100 meters to the end of the road to get some milk. The shop is visible from the front of our house. Mil, on hearing this gasps in horror, " not across thAt busy road!" I reply tat eldest will be getting bus on his own at the end of the road to secondary school in less than 8 weeks, and that he has run errands before.
I put kettle on, when I get back pil and eldest is gone. When I ask where Pil is mil says she sent him with eldest to shop.
I am so flipping mad.
She has undermined me as a parent AGAIN and done it behind my back while I was out of the room.

AIBU.?

It's not worth picking a fight over that.

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. they only went to the shop together. Pick your battles. My own mother is the same, despite us being given free reign to roam around as we pleased at a young age .

I think grandparents are often naturally overprotective, moreso than parents. It's not a big deal, she's not insisting that you never let DS out on his own - FIL was there and presumably happy to go with your DS. Not worth falling out over. Sounds like you've had a shit day though OP so for you.

Sadly thats not worth much thought really, you both disagree thats it, everyone has different points of veiw x

I couldn't get upset about this. It's not worth it. Let them be neurotic.

Thanks peeps. There is massive backstory also but appreciate your points. Will be hitting the gin Friday night when DH gets back. I came in aggravated and saw the worst I think. Thanks for the objective view. Xx

I can see why it's annoyed you and that you feel undermined but so what, he went to the shop with his grandad and probably got free sweets out of it too lol.

YANBU, I would be really pissed off by that and feel totally undermined.

Relax, not worth it.

Irritating, but I think your bad day has coloured your judgement a little. They're protective, be glad they love your son that much. I don't think they are undermining you, we all find it hard to establish when and how far to let go at that age. They aren't quite where you are yet, they'll get there.

Safeguarding incidents today made you think the worse of your FIL taking his Grandchild to the shop? What did you think he was going to do?

Thanks 's everyone. Yes they are annoying and in my house while I was not there, and I've walked in after a truly shit day . In 3 weeks it will never be a problem again as work patterns changing next term. I need to suck it up and find a punchbag or a cocktail(or 2). Thanks all. Xxx

Brittbugs.....the two are not related. I have no issues in that direction . I just walked in massively emotionally drained and with compassion fatigue and frustration because of work. I try to have 15 mins to 're set when this happens usually and instead walked in to dealing with my pil. I realise that my mental state can colour my reactions in these instances hence asking you guys for an objective view. Xx

Meh.

You know your kid can get there and back on his own, and he will do so again when your inlaws aren't there. I'd just roll my eyes and let it go.

Just chill. My husband has this really irritating way of being able to think "I'm right, I know I'm right, I don't need to convince you I'm right, I'll let you keep thinking you're right".