Do I need a letter for taking DD abroad if we have different surnames

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My daughter had her dads name I have my maiden name. Do I need a letter of permission to take her abroad. He will have no issue at all just wondering if I do need one?

Thanks all xxx

Yes, I'd recommend it or at least her birth or marriage certificate. We've been stopped twice in the past 6 months travelling via the tunnel and Heathrow

I take one and I have the same surname.

They might ask your kids casual questions like 'is daddy not coming on holiday with you?' If that happens let your dc answer.

You don't need permission but I would take birth certificate as I don't have my mums surname and when we went on holiday they asked for my BC maybe because I look nothing like my mum

This comes up regularly on mn but I've never seen it anywhere else.
I took my ds abroad last year, seperated from his df, different name. Immigration in the other country never batted at an eyelid, the only person who commented was immigration on our return who asked him who he was traveling with

I definitely would. I was challenged at passport control a few weeks ago as my kids have a different surname to me. Luckily their dad was behind us in the queue so it was fine but I did panic for a second!

I have no idea but you have your surname, not your maiden name

Are you married? Hence the maiden name?

I would bring a copy of their birth certificate if I were you. I was stopped at Heathrow once as my children have my husband's surname and I don't.

Every time I go on Eurostar with my baby I have to show her birth certificate.

A family ahead of me once were very nearly stopped from travelling with the best friend of the teenage daughter and were told that they really should have a letter from her parents.

I've known people be refused at airports in a couple of countries.

So yes take a letter! Technically I think it's supposed to be witnessed by a solicitor but I'm not sure many people have the time and money to do that every time they travel!

I've been abroad with mine 3 times post divorce and have been asked to show birth Certs (I take copies) on return to U.K. Each time. I don't bother with a letter.

My daughter went abroad in June with her step dad and my brother and his family. They were challenged on their way back into manchester and told they'd need a letter if they did it again. Bizarrely they weren't challenged leaving the country!

Thanks all. I will take her birth certificate.

THe law is that you need consent from everyone with PR, married or not, surnames or not.
The reality is that you won't be asked for this but if you don't share a surname you will probably be asked for the birth certificate.

I would or take birth certificates. We have the same set up as you and we were questioned coming back from Spain last year, or rather my 8 yr Old was questioned. As it happens my husband was in the non EU Q so easily sorted. The airport official gave us a leaflet which asks you to travel with the birth certificates if your surnames are different.

I've flown loads with dds who have dp's surname. I've never been questioned. It's never been an issue.

When we got dds passport we had to and her birth certificate and marriage certificate.Why is this info not available to passport control,seems a bit daft that the identity you by your eyes but get no other info.

I've been abroad 7 times with my children and have never been asked but I do plan on taking birth certificates this year.

It's worth having just in case. They do stop at random due to child traffickers and parental disputes. If Surnames on docs don't match I think there's a higher chance of you being stopped.

I was asked this year coming back from Cyprus. Dad knew where we were going, how long etc all fine. Jut thinking soda law for next holiday coming up. We got stopped on way in but not one on way out. Just thought surely more important on way out

Me, DP and DS all have different surnames. When we travelled abroad I took his birth certificate with no problems

We have 3 different surnames on our passports. We were fine, didn't get stopped and DH walked through with our child and wasn't questioned. I did have my birth certificate and my child's birth certificate but they didn't ask for them.

This is the official guidance www.gov.uk/permission-take-child-abroad people might not have been challenged etc. but it's very clear.

I'm the only one with PR. First child was born before 2003. Second one has a blank space on his birth cert because ex was 'too busy' to register the birth with me. I'm still taking birth certificates though.