Baby trod on at nursery

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Any advice. A nursery worker stepped on my baby's arm this morning. I was there. She got up quickly and didn't see my ds behind her. Arm really red and swollen but I think she's fine.

Obviously it was a mistake, but I was just wondering something. Her shoes were very hard soled trainers. With no give. Other members of staff were wearing much softer sold shoes like school gym shoes. The hardness of the shoes definitely made it worse.

Do you think I should mention that maybe it's a good idea that staff try and wear softer soled shoes or Aibu?

Would she be able to bare weight on it if it was fractured?

I thought the same apostropheuse, very odd

I was doing a lame attempted at making it less identifiable but obviously forgot halfway through. Sorry if that's put anyone out in any way.

Re: fracture - she might be able to bear weight on it, it's really hard to tell in little kids (I've had a fair few toddler X-rays come back abnormal when I was sure they were going to be fine). If it's still red or painful in the morning I'd go to A&E for an X-ray just to be sure. 60kg standing on a little arm is a lot of weight.

I'm just doing the rounds of nursery tours at the minute, and every single one has made me take my shoes off in the baby room for hygiene reasons. I assumed it was standard.

Ok thanks sashkin. Bit worried now!

It's concerning that it wasn't reported to management. Did other staff witness it and also not report?

A lack of accountability / transparency like that plus an unawareness of usual practice re shoes would have me looking for another nursery.

If you hadn't seen it then you would know nothing about it - and it's quite possible for a serious injury to result from something like this.

How many other incidents have gone unreported to parents?!

Yeah I was concerned about that. The thing is I do really trust them generally so this has obviously thrown me a bit.

They are hugely caring. Her keyworker and the chef all witnessed it.

When I told the manager and she said she didn't know about it, she said that she was going to speak to the worker who did it aswell as write the report. She also said that everyone who works there knows that she knows everything that happens there.

Oh this is making me feel even worse now. She was just settling in this week. It's shitty because I really was happy and confident there. Her older brother goes there too and was in the baby room a few years ago.

I would especially have expected her keyworker to make sure it was recorded, maybe not the chef (!), but I can't see any excuse for the keyworker not to make sure it's all done by the book.

What if (God forbid!) her arm is broken and you hadn't witnessed it. This is really really bad

She also said that everyone who works there knows that she knows everything that happens there.

That's bullshit. And she would say that, wouldn't she? It was you who told her wasn't it? Not another member of staff? If you had not been there when it happened you wouldn't have a clue that it had happened at all.

That's bullshit. And she would say that, wouldn't she? It was you who told her wasn't it? Not another member of staff? If you had not been there when it happened you wouldn't have a clue that it had happened at all.

Stop stoking up other people's worries. You have absolutely no proof for that flight of fancy.

It was an accident OP. You have more than one child at this nursery, you must know and trust the staff. I've accidentally hurt my DC by stepping back and misjudging distances quite often You can't dwell on these things.

I didn't mean to worry you! More than likely it isn't broken. But I didn't want you to be falsely reassured by her bearing weight on it if it was still painful.

You have absolutely no proof for that flight of fancy.

The OP herself said that when she spoke with the manager the manager had no idea that it had happened. This totally contradicts the manager's claim that she knows everything that goes on under her watch. I was pointing out that contradiction - not 'stoking up' anything.

Ok thanks so much Sashkin. I think you're right GreatWhites, we do trust them.

They work hard and we are constantly getting accident forms for various trips etc. They have a very good reputation, but most of all I trust my gut on this.

I'm going to get my DH to call them tomorrow just to have another chat with the manager, just to discuss it all and go through any preventative measure.

I appreciate everyone's opinions though. It's been a stressful day, so thanks for the input

Why are people saying it was an accident. Of course it goes without saying, it was an accident. No one is likely to step on a baby deliberately, still shouldn't happen though

it was an accident but agree should wear slippers not out doors shoes

and should have been recorded in accident book, with you reading AND signing what had happened

I would say something, but make it very clear that you appreciate it was an accident but it made you consider shoes being worn in the baby room and wonder if perhaps a show code/no shoes might be better? Xxx

What if she'd trodden on your daughter's ahead?
This stuff makes me not want to send my 9 month old baby to nursery when I gave to go back to work...

What if you hadn't seen it either?

Dh spoke to manager today. She said that she had spoken to worker in charge and that they did have a soft soled policy in the baby room so wasn't sure why that wasn't being adhered too and this would obviously be addressed. Also that all necessary paper work had been completed and the worker was going to be under observation tomorrow (which I actually feel bad about because I really don't want her to feel like we've logged a complaint specifically against her. We just wanted to know that the proper precautions were going to take place).

Poor babe, hope he is OK. Can't hurt to suggest the slipper thing? DD started nursery today and they have a strict adult in bare feet policy which I didn't really think about but now you've said this it's probably quite a good idea.

Please don't get your baby xrayed if there is no sign of the injury now. According to a medical physics expert who once lectured me, 1 in 1000 people will die as a result of having an X-ray. And having radiation exposure for no good reason whilst young and developing is more dangerous than when older. Obviously if there is a medical reason, that is more important. But i wouldn't do it without a very good reason.

The worker stood on your child's arm then didn't record it in the accident book? They usually record the smallest scratch. She sounds pretty incompetent, badly trained or badly supervised. I would be complaining to the manager.

Surely if it was that bad your child would've screamed the place down it would've been obvious she's been stepped on?

I know when I've hurt ds accidentally it's been very obvious and ear plugs were needed

Green stick fractures do not always show up for 24 hours so it easy to miss them.

However since she is weight bearing on it it sounds ok